My 17 year old D is starting Week 7 of a partial-hospitalization program (she's there all day and comes home to sleep). This is her second time being treated for AN. The first time she recovered with therapy, nutrition counseling, and close parental supervision of meals. It is harder this time. She has OCD (a family trait), and is depressed about the future, feeling she has compromised her chances for a satisfying life (though we and others try to show her otherwise). The treatment program seems to be a good one. She is receiving individual and group therapy and is taking medication for the OCD and depression. She has gained 10 pounds from her lowest weight and is up and ready to go each morning. She's made a few friends there. But a persistent factor is that D insists she isn't sure she wants to recover. If there's no future to look forward to, why not stick with the ED, which makes her feel good in certain ways? Therapist says D spends sessions debating her on this issue, skillfully undercutting arguments in favor of recovery. I am sad and afraid, and also beginning to feel angry. D has many advantages that others don't as they battle this illness, and to not even *want* to get better is hard for me to comprehend. I understand it's a long, hard road, and I am ready to walk it with her, but if the ill person doesn't want to get well, what happens then? Thank you for any insights you may have.
Now 18 yr old D diagnosed EDNOS in summer 2014, weight-restored at home, relapsed with AN spring 2016, 2.5 months PHP fall 2016, now WR for 3 months.