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My 21 year old daughter was fired from her job yesterday.  She worked at a local coffee shop which was quite a good job for a college student.  She made good tips plus a minimum wage.  She had worked there a year and one half.  She lost the keys to the coffee shop and that was the reason given for firing her.  She has bulimia and is a junior in college. I am down about the events because that was the one thing that was going well in her life.  What is your experience out there?  Is this a blessing in disguise meaning less stress on her or another blow to her self esteem?  Being on shaky ground is she capable of learning from the experience or is it another failure/downer or something in between?  All responses are appreciated.
If losing the keys is enough to make management angry enough to fire her, then I say "good riddance" to the coffee shop. There are more jobs out there. It's an opportunity to learn how to pull oneself up by the bootstraps and keep going. Life will go on.
d=18, R-AN, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Refed at home with information gathered from this forum and lots of books. Relapsed. Refed. Relapsed. Refed. 17 sessions with an excellent individual therapist. 19 sessions with unhelpful dietician. 3 sessions of DBT (didn't like it). Psychiatrist available if needed. Prozac - fail. Lexapro - fail. 5HTP - fail. Clorazepam/Klonopin = major improvement, only used when necessary. Genomind SLC6A4 short/short - not able to process SSRI's.
d=15, lost 14 lbs in 8 months, Ped [nono]diagnosed as a crystal on a hair in the ear canal
It'll be a blow to her self-esteem alright, but if she can be helped to find something better she'll get through it.
19yo D, AN since Sept 2014. Was wt restored for a year or two but now starving again, refusing treatment or to admit she has a problem. BMI guesstimate around 13 or 14. Has left home.
Very sad Mum.
She will hopefully accept this is part of normal life and move on. She has experience now, she should get a reference out of the coffee shop so she can copy it onto prospective employers. I hope they have paid her any holiday pay owing and given her a tax form for the next employer.
My d had a rough ride doing college rather than working when she lost her job as apprentice hairdresser but she picked up a new job, went to college and now she is back in another apprenticeship doing hairdressing and has learnt a valueable lesson- she has to eat and drink and keep it in in order to function in a job. We find that with work comes structure and that has been a huge help to my d's bulimia.
Stay positive, she can get a better job now.
NELLY D 20 bulimic since age 12, diagnosed in 2011. 20 months useless CAMHs,7 months great IP, home March 14..... more useless CAMHs.now an adult & no MH services are involved. I reached the end of my tether, tied a knot in it and am hanging on. ED/Bulimia treatmentis in the dark ages in West Sussex.