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Torie
I know this isn't really an appropriate topic for the forum, but since this is the only place to find my friends at 4 am, I'll write this post and then delete the thread later.

I'm sitting on the floor with our beloved dog who suddenly took a turn for the worse yesterday.  Counting the hours and minutes until the service that performs home visits for pet euthanasia starts answering the phone at 7 am.  We debated taking him to the pet hospital last night, but getting him in and out of the car and traveling 45 minutes would be horrible for him so here we are.

Such a sad time.

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Foodsupport_AUS
Thinking of you and all your family at this time. Losing a much loved family member is always hard, even though we know they don't live as long as us, it never makes it easy. 

I hope that the stress this causes does not set your D back. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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meadow
Thinking of you and your family Torie. How sad. As Foodsupport says, I hope your D copes ok. Lots of love x
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Calm_USA
Ah Torie, I am so sorry for you and your family.  Losing a pet is heart wrenching, particularly when that loving, loyal soul got you through some of the worst times of your life.  Just remember you did get through it and now he deserves to be at peace.  Love to you and yours.
Mom of a 19 yr old. RAN diagnosed 1/2014. Residential, PHP, IOP. W/R since late summer 2014. Now in remission and thriving in her second year at university. My Faith remains.
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Torie
Thanks so much for the replies.

I hope that the stress this causes does not set your D back.

A few of you may remember that when my d was still very ill, this same dog had a tumor on his spleen that had started bleeding.  The whole spleen had to go immediately to have a chance to save him, and even that was not likely to buy us more than another 6 months with him.  I told the vet that we could not lose this dog right now because of D, and somewhere, someone must have listened because the tumor turned out to be benign, and the surgery gave him another good 2 1/2 years.  And he was pretty ok through Christmas this time - I just keep thinking how much better it is that this is happening during the days right after Christmas than if it were the days immediately before or - heaven forbid - on.

D is much better and stronger now - of course I join you in hoping she makes it through this ok.  She is already under too much stress and suffering deep disappointment with college apps.  By a good stroke of luck, though, her best-friend-who-moved-away is arriving this afternoon for a visit.  Sucks for the friend, but a blessing for us.

The poor dog.  Man oh man.  So many tears in the Torie house.  

The vet will be here in an hour and a half.  xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Francie
So sorry, Torie, we have a cat who is a huge support for our d so I appreciate where you're coming from. They are like family members only better because they never have a bad word to say. They only give love and support. How very sad for your family. Thinking of you.

Francie

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atdt31_US
So sorry for this loss. Thinking of you!
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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ed_newbie
Thinking of you and your family Torie. Our dog brings joy to our family each day and my d even says she is her therapy dog. Such a sad time.

"Lineage, personality and environment may shape you, but they do not define your full potential."    Mollie Marti  

ed_newbie

15 yr old d diagnosed with AN late December 2015 at the age of 12 after a 23 lb weight loss during prior 3 months. Started FBT/Maudsley at home on Christmas Eve with support from amazing local nutritionist specializing in ED and trained in FBT. WR Feb 2016 and pushing our way through puberty and rapid growth.
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melstevUK
Torie,

Can only say how sorry I am - pets give us so much love and happiness but the pain when we lose them is just so awful.  It may be an opportunity for d to learn that, however much she is suffering, she needs to eat through it all.  I hope she surprises you and manages ok, with no backwards steps.
Hugs. x

Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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mjkz
Torie, so sorry.  I can't imagine my life without my furry friends and the pain of losing them is terrible.  I hope things stay stable eating wise while you all grieve.  [frown]
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Sotired
I'm so sorry to hear about this Torie.its a wonderful thing that we don't have to make our animals suffer when it's their time but that makes it no less heartbreaking. [frown]
As he goes over the rainbow bridge,he knows he is loved and will be missed.that is all any of us need to know at the end.
Peace be with you Torie xx
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EDAction
I am so sorry Torie.  Thinking of you and your family . . .[frown]
DD diagnosed with anorexia at 14; FBT at home with the help of psychologist and medical dr; 3+ years later and doing well (knock on wood)
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Torie
Thanks so much for all the replies - I really appreciate the understanding and support.  I know many here are fighting for their kids' lives, and I don't want to clutter the forum with this off-topic thread so I'll be deleting it soon.

Thanks again for being there for me.  It meant a lot to have someone to "talk" to during that long, dark night. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Foodsupport_AUS
Torie, please don't feel you need to or should delete this thread. We hear time and again how important those furry friends are to families dealing with ED. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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ooKoo
Torie, I am so sorry for your loss. xxxx

Our beloved Dog is the one member of our family who is constantly happy to be here and a friend to us all. Life here without him would be very different. He has provided comfort for us all. He has provided solice to my H and I when we take him for long walks to think, reflect and cry.

Please dont delete your thread, as I am sure that your furry friend has been a big part of your recovering family....we should pay tribute to our little friends!
UK - South East

19 yo D

Dx AN Feb 2015 (Aged 15). Pre-existing low self-esteen and high anxiety. 

2015: 3 x medical hospital admissions. 1 month in IP which she self discharged from [eek].
2016: 3 x hospital admissions. 
2017: CAMHS CBT. WR, dropped out of 2 different colleges and started an apprenticeship.  Started having grand mal seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy in Nov 2017. Sacked from job because of this.  Tribunal ensued.
2018 - doing a Psychology degree through Open University and working in retail to pay her way in life. Relapses with eating disorder in June 18 and Nov 18 😢. 

On particularly rough days when I am sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. [Author Unknown]
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meadow
Torie, I agree about not deleting the thread. It sounds as though the dog has been a big part of your family's journey, so I think it's perfectly relevant.

There was a whole story on this morning's BBC breakfast news about how dogs are being used in some children's hospitals to help recovery. There are some incredible stories out there.

Hope you're bearing up ok. Xxx
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