F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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teecee

 

Hello all. I just wanted to wish you all well in your recovery journeys and bid farewell.

 

I have been a member of this incredible forum for just over 2 years and read with interest at how amazing you are at managing this dreadful illness. The impact it has on our lives is huge and whilst everyone’s journeys are not identical there are many similarities. I have spoken from my own experience when contributing and hope that has been helpful to some of you.

 

I find myself at a point where my D is doing incredibly well in remission from AN, eating normally and doing ‘normal’ things and I hope that those of you still in the position I was in not too long ago understand I now need some normality back. I will continue to offer support publically in my local area of Yorkshire but will step back from contributing in the forum regularly. I will pop back occasionally however I have a new job and positive upcoming opportunities which I want to focus on. 

 

I found that sometimes communicating with others across the world has been so beneficial but also has it’s obstacles in that others may not take input as has been intended...perhaps due to communication breakdown over the written word. I have always tried to be compassionate and caring in responses but sometimes people don’t always accept it as intended and I have no control over that. I do have control over what I think and what I do though.

 

For those new to the forum please know it’s been a lifesaver for us and I will continue to signpost people in need here.

Please remember that if you have an issue with anything that someone else says by all means take it up with them privately but not publically in posts. No one on here intends to criticise others in posts but unfortunately when emotions are running high people can be unintentionally offended.

 

Love to all and I will continue to contribute financially in lieu of Xmas cards in the form of a donation, as this service is so vital.
If anyone wants to contact me privately via email about any queries relating to my posts, as they have done in the past, I have no problem with that whatsoever. It would be lovely to hear from you!!

 

All the best......keep swimming 😊

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LaraB

Thanks Teecee. I am very grateful for your wise and thoughtful and kind contributions to me and so many others. I have learnt so much from you. It has been inspirational to so many people to hear how well your D is doing. I know we will all miss you 😘 

Really pleased for you that you have new opportunity coming up. But fingers crossed 🤞 that you will keep in touch with the forum because you are amazing and we will miss you So much. Xxxx

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Enn
Dear teecee, 
I only wish for you the best. You have  been very kind and have always given from your heart. Your experience has been very helpful to others here. 
Sending well wishes for a  very good, and ED free future. 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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joanne34
Thank you so much for your kind advice.  I hope your daughter continues to go from strength to strength.  All the best. xxx
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Adlih64
Thank you teecee for all your kind words and support.  It means so much when you’re new to this and terrified.  Best wishes for the future x
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MKR
Many thanks for your uplifting advice, we will miss you!

We all occasionally get mis-read. (I can assure you, because English is not my first language). But your good intentions have always shone from your posts, that I can guarantee!! This forum is a unique place in that everyone "gets" what we are living through and to me it's always felt like an older sister with welcoming arms (with a shoulder to cry on, too). A sister that wipes my tears and then firmly says, "Now here's what you could try to fix it."

All the best with your new job and future endeavours!
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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Kali
Dear Teecee,

Thank you for all the support that your wise words have contributed to the families here. 
We will miss your input but wish you well with your new job and new opportunities and your daughters continued recovery.
You have done hero's work helping your daughter.

warmly,
Kali
Food=Love
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Bobs

All the best to you and your D Teecee. I always enjoyed reading what you had to say as it was straightforward and always came from knowledge and kindness. 

15 year old D. Started to feel low summer 2019. Fall out with friends October 2019. Depressed, self-harming and suicidal from January 2020. Diagnosed with AN July 2020. Slowly coming out of it and feeling hopeful for the future.
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Foodsupport_AUS
Wishing you all the best @teecee.. Thank you for being supportive over the years and I trust that your daughter will continue to do well into the future. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Torie
Teecee, I hope that upon reflection, you will not go.

In recent years, we have lost a lot of the people like you who are here to help.  Too many have left because they no longer feel welcome - I understand that, but I also know that we need you.

I wonder if it might work for you to cut back on your time here, but not leave altogether.  That's what I am trying.  

In any case, I wish you and your family all the best.  Sure glad I know you. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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melstevUK
Teecee,

Your warm words of advice will be missed - but I also understand that there is often a point at which parents can benefit from having another focus in their lives.  Your d is doing well and in a safe place and as you say, having some normality back in your life will be much appreciated.

Come back any time - and don't let any hurt and misunderstandings get in the way of doing that.  They occur every now and then.  Part of the limitation of the written word.
My best wishes to you and your d.  The progress you have made is brilliant.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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teecee

Torie, you know me so well and I am glad I know you too 😊 You always have the right words and someone I always wanted advice from.

You’re right of course but I find myself intolerant of those who seek to criticise others on the forum, those who have experienced the same pain and are on their ‘team.’ Why on earth anyone would dream of attacking others who have felt that extreme pain is beyond me. For now I need to conduct my own self care and yes perhaps stepping back is my way of doing that. I will take on board what you have said and experience some positive time away before deciding.

Thank you all. I really do wish you all the success in the world. Xxx

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PurpleRain
Teecee, i hace read many of your posts, I shall miss you. I wish you and your D the very best. Enjoy your time away from the forum and comeback whenever you feel like it. Thanks for your great contributions. Virtual hugs
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" September 2018, she had a growth spurt a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricting breakfast and school lunch in January 2019 (that we know). We succesfully refed at home.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that I did not know I had.
Never retreat, never surrender
keep feeding
 
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