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cm72
I'm going to wait until my H comes back (tomorrow, YAY!) and then suddenly that bowl is going to fall off that counter. [wink]
Today she had a bowl of cereal but it was just a touch amount less in it than usual. Plus I didn't see her have her snack (even though she swears she did). So for lunch, I sneakily made her what amounts to be about an 800 calorie lunch. It looks like her normal lunch but with more chips and a higher calorie bread.  Plus four slices of cheese instead of 2. The self satisfaction I get from watching her eat it is huge (inwardly laughing evilly). Take that ED!
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Enn

cm72 wrote:
I'm going to wait until my H comes back (tomorrow, YAY!) and then suddenly that bowl is going to fall off that counter. [wink]
Today she had a bowl of cereal but it was just a touch amount less in it than usual. Plus I didn't see her have her snack (even though she swears she did). So for lunch, I sneakily made her what amounts to be about an 800 calorie lunch. It looks like her normal lunch but with more chips and a higher calorie bread.  Plus four slices of cheese instead of 2. The self satisfaction I get from watching her eat it is huge (inwardly laughing evilly). Take that ED!


You go girl!! 

Yes break the bowl. And yay on you for the lunch!!

Proud of you!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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deenl
Oooh, even now, years into the journey, I still love my internal evil laugh that just sticks it to ED.

It's so tough but you have gotten so much feedback this week. Just know that you are so much further along the learning curve.

Wishing you continued strength and courage,

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Frazzled
Yay! So glad today is a better day!!
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cm72
Spoke too soon. Tried to give her pasta for dinner and she has thrown about six bowls worth. I’ve been trying for an hour. She just now dumped her apple juice on it. She’s had pasta about 6 times before. When does a fear food become a normal food? Also, at any point do I give up and give her a sandwich? She will eat those.
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Enn
No matter what she eats it is not giving up. This has been a stressful time with you and her being alone together. I know some may say keep giving the pasta, but in the moment, it is excruciatingly painful to serve it again and you alone are doing it without support , right now. You had some gains today already so well done! You can tell her that you know that pasta is hard at this time and you will try again another day and still give her the sandwich. That way you acknowledge that it is hard for you both AND that she WILL eat the pasta another time for sure. That is the expectation and it will happen. 
You did not give in. She still eats and EATING is the goal at this point in the process.
XXX
 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Mamaroo
What Scaredmom said.

I think as long as YOU make and give her the sandwich then ED hasn't won. You can slowly introduce pasta again by giving her a little bit to eat (I told my d she just needs to taste it, makes it sound a lot less scarier). After she had a couple of bites, you can give her the sandwich (which I know will be high calorie bread and double cheese - you go girl!). Do this every time you have pasta and increase the amount of pasta a little bit every time. 

Sending lot of hugs!!!!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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