We are still on lockdown but we rented a house with a swimming pool an hour away from our city for a few days. Just our kids (step son 20 years, EDd 14 almost 15, youngest S 10), hubby, and me plus our 2 dogs. All in all we enjoyed it and was a good experience. It was a welcome change in scenery, my D was able to behave and interact in a more teen appropriate fashion with her older brother (we hadn't seen him in months due to the covid lockdown) and I think that was really good for her.
But it was also a rollercoaster of emotions. She has been doing really well food and mood wise (WR back to her growth curve + cushion), but during the holidays I had to push her to wear appropriate clothing (shorts, sleeveless shirts, and specially swimsuits) so mood was up and down (no problems with the food though). I felt disappointed that she still has body issues (not sure if it qualifies as body dismorphia or just "normal" teen dissatisfaction), but really proud of her because she eventually wear everything I asked her to, including a swimsuit without a t-shirt to get into the swimming pool, yey! (only a couple of times but still). The best moment was when she was doing a silly dance while wearing swimsuit and shorts, that's the girl I use to know! I almost cried happy tears (but kept my polar face). The last day she had her period (a few days early), so I realised that she did all that with hormones raging through her body! So, we still have a long way to go, it's difficult sometimes to know when it's ED, when it's PMS, when is normal teen annoying behaviour, but I feel she is making progress, not as fast as I would like (some days I feel we should be further along by now) but progress nevertheless. It is a marathon indeed, not a sprint.
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" September 2018, she had a growth spurt a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricting breakfast and school lunch in January 2019 (that we know). We succesfully refed at home.
I'm so grateful for this wonderful forum where I can share this victories that no one else would understand!
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that I did not know I had.
Never retreat, never surrender