Thank you all for your replies and your support!!
I am typing this from the Emergency Room.
I did finally figure out where my D was hiding the food - under the table on top of the base holding the table up. The base was large enough to hide a ton of food and sure enough, there were entire meals in there. I finally caught her trying to hide her snack there while pretending to eat it.
After I found it, I reacted very calmly and asked her to eat the snack. She said that since I had figured out her latest hiding spot she would not eat anymore no matter what anyone did. I couldn’t convince her to eat, no matter how calmly I spoke to her.
So we took her to the Emergency Room. She only agreed to go because we told her that we would call an ambulance otherwise. She has refused to eat anything while here.
However we finally got some traction with the hospital and they’re keeping her overnight, which is a huge relief.
camusicmom, may I ask where you found a psychiatric hospital that has EDO capabilities? I have called so many psychiatric hospitals that have told me that they don’t handle EDs that I had assumed psychiatric hospitals with ED capabilities didn’t even exist.
Tina, I love your idea about the supplement in addition to the food - the problem is that right now my D is refusing everything. We’ve taken everything away and still she wouldn’t eat. Over the last couple of weeks she has appeared to comply more, but it was because she was really hiding most of the food.
Torie, we did find a school for D but it’s a special school for children with autism and ADHD. It was the only place that provided enough oversight. So most of the children there struggle enough to get through their own day that they don’t really challenge my D socially, and I suppose that’s why she is ok going there. In a way, it is like being on her own. She has refused to see any of her old friends, going as far as to hide in a closet when a friend showed up unannounced at our house on her birthday.
Foodsupport_AUS, thanks so much for the suggestion of a Skype call. If I am not able to find a residential facility I will certainly set up a session with a therapist over Skype.