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I know there are not many places that this is to be celebrated but, I know "you" would get it.  Its been almost a year since her last one and she is really excited too.  Been a long and hellish road but we now have good days as the norm instead of bad as the norm.  i know it can go south again but I have learned to be happy in the now. 
I am very scared of school starting again soon but we are trying to give D all the tools she needs to maintain this success.

She says that the "voices" are gone most of the time but come back once in a while, I assume that is "normal"  I have told her that they will just fade away--i hope that encourages her to keep eating.  She is very motivated to get well this time and I believe her.  She does have times of struggle, but she will ask if she has to eat this or do I have to eat it all and we always tell her yes and she does!!!!!  
She is sleeping back in her own bed, although I do get up at night to check on her and she has just been sleeping.  She did yoga at the PHP so we let her do it at home with supervision.  I did catch her doing jumping jacks but she stopped when i told her to and didn't do any more.   I still won't leave her home alone but i do take showers when she is home now without H there--just quickly still.

I am really astounded at how much WR and above it takes.  I now think that BMI is crap and wonder what to go by other than good mental state.  D is over 100% BMI for almost 2 months now and that's what it took for period to return and start becoming herself again.  when she was in the "acceptable" range there were more rages and restricting.  Food really is medicine.

She has times of genuine happiness now and will act goofy with us. She has made plans with friends lately.  She is playing with our dog and enjoying it.   i almost cried when she serenaded me with her own silly versions of songs on the radio. She also will let me hug her more and she put her head on my lap --on her own---twice now!!!!!!
That may not sound like very much but for me this is more precious than gold. 

I had times where I thought we would never be happy again or that this evil disease would ever be pushed back but you FEASTies helped me to not lose hope or sight of the goal --keeping my d alive.

Thanks for letting me share.


we have 12 year old D with RAN and exercise compulsion. Diagnosed December 2015.  She did well refeeding at home but in May we had major relapse over a comment someone made at school and ended up in the hospital for over two weeks just to get her heart rate out of the 20s. Then went to a PHP for a few weeks and is home now doing well, I feel like I'm holding my breath to see if it's going to stay that way. We are going to the Intensive family program at UCSD on August 29th. 

glad I'm not alone in this
Woohoo!!! So glad to read this happy news! Thanks for posting.

You rock! xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
Excellent news, thanks for sharing!!!  [smile]

"Lineage, personality and environment may shape you, but they do not define your full potential."    Mollie Marti  


15 yr old d diagnosed with AN late December 2015 at the age of 12 after a 23 lb weight loss during prior 3 months. Started FBT/Maudsley at home on Christmas Eve with support from amazing local nutritionist specializing in ED and trained in FBT. WR Feb 2016 and pushing our way through puberty and rapid growth.

It took 2 mos of WR plus
I couldn't believe how much over she had to be to get it back.( Edited as think D is lurking on site)

Once I actually stopped worrying about it coming back. That's when it came back. Go figure[smile]

We have her on high amount of healthy fats. I think getting the body fat back up helped the most.

You will get there! Just feed feed feed
Good luck!
glad I'm not alone in this