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I am a nervous wreck, I met with the school on Monday to put a safety plan into place in case D cuts or talks suicide. She admitted last week to trying to skip meals to loose weight but I hope I nipped that in the bud. Although she has not been snacking as much I am making sure she has complete meals. I don't have a lot of confidence in the school, on paper the plan is flawless but as some of you "oldies" know we have been through hell with the school.They have failed us miserably.I know to someone who has no experience with cutting and suicidal thoughts might over react. i learned through this recent ordeal that just because someone cuts does not mean they want to kill themselves.I also learned that expressing suicidal thoughts without a specific plan to do it is not considered a crisis.I thought that was weird but thats what the professionals claim.I know my D is anxious about all the questions about where she has been,hopefully she will answer and it will be accepted.I hope the remainder of the year goes quickly!!!!
Hi Bentoplan,

I totally commiserate with the nerves! Going back to school and facing the natural curiosity of classmates must be daunting. But there could be good things too, I hope so.

I found the self harm/suicide tightrope to be horrifically stressful. You have to give them some freedom but it is so terrifying to us personally. 

All we can do is to go through the rough period and hope for better things. I am hoping that your daughter gets on fine on Monday.

I'll be thinking of her, you and all your family. Hang in there,
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
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  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
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Thinking of you, Bontoplen. I sent you (another) email a while back in reply to your note, but not sure if they are going through. xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP