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braveMom
I had posted another thread around breakup and relapse, but to summarize my daughter had a breakup and had a mini relapse but is back on track with eating. During that time, she reached out to pot and considering she is in her senior year (but won't be 18 until Oct) we had told her that we will drug screen her frequently to keep her away from drugs (even in college). During the depths of her ED, she did pot but as far as we know she does not do it when she is doing ok in recovery. She is very compliant and does not mind the screening because she says she did it only twice recently. and it really helps her calm down her thoughts and focus. We are seeing the psych tomorrow to help her with her mood, anxious thoughts and sleep.

I know Colleen has done this with her d in college. I don't think she is addicted or dependent, but is her negative coping skill and want to make sure her brain heals without the influence of drugs.

- Have you used a lab?
- How frequently do you screen?
- Who interprets the results? your physician or lab?

Any insight would be appreciated - planning to start screening her this week.


braveMom

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HateEDwithApassion
Hi Brave mom, 
Your story is our story, too. Exact age and same reason for the pot. We have a local drug awareness organization that sells a 10-panel drug test for $7. So, I usually buy 5 at a time, and have ordered several times. Because pot apparently can be detected by this urine dipstick for up to 7 days, we typically try to test every 10 days or few weeks at home. The results are easy to read and show up in about 5 minutes. I believe you can buy them online or even at a drug store. My D has lied about smoking pot, right up until the time we've gotten a positive test result, so it works. And she knows it does.

I don't believe my D is dependent either, but could easily be if it became her default coping mechanism without interruption. In addition, I think the desire to medicate away feelings instead of dealing with them is a dangerous road that certainly leaves our Ds open to trying other more serious drugs that promise the same result. That's one of my biggest fears... Hope this helps.
19 yo D. AN - since about 15 years old. WR quickly - but the last four years have been tough. Since Sept. 2017, two residential stays, now in IOP, fighting a relapse. ED is hanging on, mental state not great, can't get her to remain at a weight long enough or high enough to see mental healing. She's on a gap year that will likely now turn into two.
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Colleen
You can buy test strips online specifically for the substances you want to test for.  We used to randomly test our d.  I would have her pee into a cup and test it myself with the little strip.  I can't tell you how accurate they were as they always came up negative.

I was kind of concerned that she might convince her younger sis to store urine for her in the bathroom, so I'd have her use a different bathroom and make sure the cup felt like the right temperature.  Gross but hey.
Colleen in the great Pacific Northwest, USA

"What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious disease."
Alexander Pope, 1688-1744
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HateEDwithApassion
From day one, I stood in the bathroom with her. She protested, but I told her it was too bad. She had violated our trust already, and so I was staying. Now, she just knows that's the way it is. 
19 yo D. AN - since about 15 years old. WR quickly - but the last four years have been tough. Since Sept. 2017, two residential stays, now in IOP, fighting a relapse. ED is hanging on, mental state not great, can't get her to remain at a weight long enough or high enough to see mental healing. She's on a gap year that will likely now turn into two.
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mumto3
I would second standing in the bathroom with her.  My nephew, who has depression and was suicidal turned to drugs.  When he had to pass a drug test for a job, he was able to purchase clean urine online, and had some sort of system with tubing and a backpack that he could wear so he could go through the motions, but use someone else's urine.  Who knew?  He admitted it to his family later.
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