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Hi everyone, 

I haven't posted for a while and I hope everyone is as ok as they can be at the moment.   
Things are probably around the same mentally for my daughter......still doesn't want to get better, nervous tics etc.

However, she has put on a bit more weight, now 45kg.  This is still underweight as she is tall but at her worst she dropped to 41kg. 
Despite her resistance to change, and us still having to watch her so she doesn't hide food etc, things seem a tiny bit better.

No more howling at night/in the shower/when getting changed.   We are seeing some smiles and a bit of laughter

We still have peaks in anxiety where she will still try and hurt herself (e.g. slapping her face, scratching her arm) / the tics appear worse/upset/angry etc but it doesn't seem anywhere as prolonged.

She is able to do things more now like play musical instruments, draw etc - not shut down all day.

She eats all of  3 of her main meals (which are 'fortified') but snacks/puddings aren't as big maybe as they could be.  She does also have two fortisips a day too.

I know we are still slap bang in the middle of anorexia but I just wondered if this 'change' sounds familiar?  I know it could be years until she recovers but it does feel like things are going slowly in the right direction.

Oh.....she has warm feet in bed! 😃
Those do all sound like positive signs It is great that she herself is starting to engage more too. It sounds like there is a a very long way to go in weight gain, and it is common for things to settle for a bit then get worse. Not a reason to stop but a reason to push through. One bonus of everyone being trapped at home at the moment can be that you can focus on this a bit more than usual and hopefully improve those gains. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
There definitely is still more weight to gain, however now we are all home (we are both working from home now) lunches will be more substantial than they would normally have been when we had a quick turnaround in the school lunch.  It feels generally slightly less horrific - I'm definitely not crying everyday anymore like I was when things were at their worst and just so hard all day every single day.   It just feels like there is the tiniest bit of normality creeping back into our lives.  
I am glad that things are better overall.
Keep on going!!
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Thanks for the update.  Glad you are able to get her weight increasing - every pound you are able to get on her brings you a tiny bit closer to that light at the end of the tunnel.  xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
Thank you xx
you sound in a very similar position to us. My daughter has declared she will never play her instrument again because she is so terrible at it. I hope that stops since she loved playing it before.  
It sounds like you are managing really well - we are struggling with snacks every day and i wish I could get fortisips in!
Keep going - the blessing of this virus is it allows to focus more on getting our children better!
The old saying that you can’t eat an elephant whole but you can if you break it in to little chunks is true. Keep going and those little changes make something amazing called recovery 😊👍🏻💕