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Hi! All,

Yesterday D was discharged from UCSD. My wife and I are so happy that D finally finished her 6 month treatment at UCSD. Today we are pretty busy with cleaning the apartment and will leave San Diego to have a vacation. I understand that so many families are still fighting with AN. I will want to give you a brief summary of the treatment results and will share more details about treatment in a future post. 

Our history please refer to this link. D is 19 years old and she relapsed before the college started. She finished her first year in college with our support. The whole process was very frustrated and depressing. Due to her low weight or other health condition, the college asked her to take ED treatment. She decided to go to UCSD to take the treatment this May. The treatment journey started from June 19 and ended on Dec. 15. It lasts about 6 months. She started from 10 weeks PHP program, then IOP, now it is outpatient program. She has been maintaining her weight and managing her food by herself for about 3 months.


Before Treatment

After Treatment


Lost 20 pounds (97 lbs)

Restored 20 pounds (120 lbs)


Stopped for 11 months

Resumed in Nov. and Dec.


Wanted to be a vegan

Very flexible, can eat various food like meat, fish, shrimp, cheese, ice cream etc.

Rigid Thinking

Very rigid about food and perfectionism

More open and less rigid. Can accept failures.


Long distance runner, excessive running

Switch to other activities like dancing, yoga, hiking etc.


Easy to get anger and depressing

Manage the emotions much better. Learned DBT to deal with anxiety and anger


Focus on specific types of friends

Open to more types of friends


Can’t focus on study due to AN

Finished 3 courses at UCSD with good scores

She is ready for going back to college again. I really appreciate the work of the therapist and dietitian at UCSD eating disorder center. They are the best. Without their efforts, all of these could not be achieved. 

If you are seeking for ED treatment, please consider UCSD as one of your choices.

Never give up!

Best wishes!


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19 yr old d Dx Feb 2012. WR June 2012. Now she is in Phase III and enjoy her study and activities. Try to give the control back to her but still keep vigilant. 
"The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow."
Hi DC,  

Thanks for the update! I'm so happy for your family and that your daughter was able to get such excellent treatment. You did the right thing for her!


Hi! Kali,

I also want to thank you for help and support. We have learned a lot from this forum. Really appreciate the valuable inputs from the parents here.


19 yr old d Dx Feb 2012. WR June 2012. Now she is in Phase III and enjoy her study and activities. Try to give the control back to her but still keep vigilant. 
"The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow."
Hi DC,

Thank you!
A good support team of EDdr/psych/therapist/nutritionist/ when your daughter returns to college (with all the HIPPA forms signed so that you can be informed if there are any blips along the way) can help keep her on track as she moves forward...as well as frequent eyes on visits.

Enjoy your well-deserved vacation! 

It is great that your D is doing so well. Thank you for letting us know. Stories like this give all those who are struggling hope of things getting better. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Dear DC,

I really loved reading of your daughters progress, especially the before/after.  Our S entered UofM EDC three weeks ago.  He's not quite to IOP yet, but on the way.  Lost about 12 - 15 pounds (88) and is up to 102 now. Age 14.  It's certainly been a journey!  So good to see that others (like your daughter) are on the way and working through it.  We are Cheering our boy on.  
Yay!!!  I LOVE reading posts like this!!  Three cheers for the dc family!  I look forward to reading your further updates.  xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
What amazing progress your daughter has made. Y’all are amazing parents that have done what we it takes to help your daughter! My heart is so happy to read this update! Enjoy your vacation!!!
Enjoying my 23 year-old daughter's achievement of active recovery that was made possible by the resources and education I found on this forum.

Don't give up hope!
Thanks for providing your update, and clear chart that shows how your d has improved in both state and weight.

As mentioned above, it's important to have a relapse prevention plan when your d returns to university.  I'm sure the UCSD program has prepared you all well to move forward.

Kudos to you all, and hope that you have the most wonderful holiday together & a very happy & healthy year ahead in 2018!

It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
Wonderful DC.  I remember when you were struggling with the college and trying to enforce the contract.  I'm glad in the end they saw the wisdom of what you were saying and doing and helped you enforce it.