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teecee

My D had an assessment for DSA today to support her at university in September. 

For those of you who don’t know what it is or thinking not to bother I would urge you to reconsider and apply. It’s been so easy to do and the amount of support...we’ll I’m overwhelmed and feel more confident about her being independent at uni. 

Our support includes a human mentor (accessible in person or virtually for practical support) ....laptop and printer (inc inks and paper) ...dictation software (wow just wow) which works with the other software on the laptop eg mind maps and video lecture software (downloads lectures in audio and puts straight in to text amongst other things). Also travel costs to and from uni...accommodation requests etc we have been advised re a personal fridge in the room.

All the above comes with full training to get the most out of the kit on offer.  

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melstevUK
So glad that your d is getting supports in place teecee, and that the DSA support has been more than just financial.  It sounds as if they are making huge efforts to help her and may have had experience of applications from ed patients already.  It must be very reassuring for you both.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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Bobs

That is fantastic Teecee, I’m so pleased for you and your D. This forum is a godsend as I’m already thinking about when my D wants to spread her wings and go to uni and how we could facilitate this if she still has AN. 

 

15 year old D. Started to feel low summer 2019. Fall out with friends October 2019. Depressed, self-harming and suicidal from January 2020. Diagnosed with AN July 2020. Slowly coming out of it and feeling hopeful for the future.
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teecee

Thank you. The DSA has been more practical than I thought. I was really pleasantly surprised at how the assessor recognised the difficulties of ED sufferers. 

It’s been really reassuring for me as a parent hence why I shared it as if any one else is in a similar position I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend it. 

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Foxglove
Hello, what I am writing is based on my experience. Am very happy for people to contradict what I am saying,  however, having sat on both sides of the HE fence, I believe university is not the place for those with EDs or in recovery.  Life at uni is tough enough if you are 'well', universities are not equipped to monitor or support our children.  All the IT gadgets will not keep them safe.  More usually, the need to achieve and quieten the ED voice produces high academic marks, isolation, misery and relapse.  High grades mask how ill they really are.  Some think uni will act as an encouragement to get better.... I understand the logic, but that is not what I have seen.  It becomes a way to delay treatment and enables the ED to thrive.  Better to wait until your child is fully recovered for at least a year. Education can wait.  It really can. Nowadays, many students are much older, returning to education later in life.  What use is a degree if they are no longer with us?  As I said, would love someone to say it worked, but having had experience from both sides, I do not believe it can. Maybe someone will come along and prove me wrong. 
 
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teecee

Hi Foxglove and thank you for sharing your experience. I welcome feedback whether it be positive or negative. I may start another thread to find out others experiences too 👍🏻😊
We have a way to go and delaying has always been an option. 

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Foxglove
Hello Teecee, great idea to start a new thread.  You still have time to make your decision and there is a wealth of experience on the forum. Take care 🤗
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