F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

Welcome to F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum. This is a free service provided for parents of those suffering from eating disorders. It is moderated by kind, experienced, parent caregivers trained to guide you in how to use the forum and how to find resources to help you support your family member. This forum is for parents of patients with all eating disorder diagnoses, all ages, around the world.

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Dear Parents and Carers! Just a reminder that we come together during a very difficult time of our lives and therefore have need to take special care. We hope that this group will be a source of support and healing for many. As you write, please keep these group rules in mind:

FORUM RULES:

  • Kindness and civility.
  • The forum is meant for parents and adult caregivers only.
  • Registration is required to join the discussion. Contact information given during registration will not be used for any other purpose than FEAST.
  • Clinicians and Professionals in the eating disorder field may register and post replies, but we ask that the conversation remain primarily between and in the service of parent’s and carer’s specific questions. For this reason, professional members may not create new topics. In addition, clinicians should refrain from marketing their services, and are asked to contact F.E.A.S.T.’s staff before posting any links to surveys, interview requests, or announcements.
  • Clinicians who are also caregivers should clarify this relationship if posting for support as a caregiver.
  • Posts by current patients will be deleted, not because we don’t care but because we do. Care advice should come from one’s own parents and treatment providers, not strangers.
  • Caregiving parents who are also in treatment for eating disorders must limit questions to caregiving issues.
  • Protect your privacy by choosing a username that does not reveal your real name or identity, and be careful in what information you provide in your profile: it is available for viewing by registered members. You can mark your name as private to keep members from seeing it. Email is always private.
  • Advice given on online forums is of variable quality and reliability.
  • This is an anonymous forum but anything you post will be available to anyone, anywhere, permanently. If you post about specific people, treatment providers, or methods you can assume that the subject will read it.
  • This forum is an adjunct, not a replacement for professional consultation.
  • Inappropriate registrations and posts will be deleted.
  • Please use an email account that you will monitor regularly (including spam folders) for occasional communications from F.E.A.S.T. Administrators or Moderators. Failure to respond to personal email communications from F.E.A.S.T. may result in the suspension of posting privileges. Disposable email accounts are NOT ALLOWED.
  • When parents grow depressed or anxious under the understandable strain of caregiving, it is essential to seek clinical assistance ‘on the ground.’ ATDT cannot provide therapy or interventions.
  • Users can edit or delete their own posts and registration information at any time.
  • Please feel free to share your experience and opinion, but refrain from telling others what to do. Please be mindful and inclusive of the range of religious and cultural backgrounds using the forum.
  • The marketing of books, resources, or services is not allowed on the Forum. Members may suggest resources that they have created, heard about, or used and found helpful in the context of a Forum discussion. Advertising and point of sale links will be removed from member signature fields. F.E.A.S.T. understands that this is a grey area and asks that members err on the side of caution if they are unsure if a post is appropriate.
  • Members of the forum are welcome to contact one another privately, but these contacts — including those with moderators and mentors — should be considered personal and outside of the forum’s functions. Private contact with members of the Moderator Team will be shared with the rest of the team unless specifically agreed as a private communication between friends.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Kali
Thank you, Foodsupport_Aus!

Kali
Food=Love
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Enn
I do think this time of year is fraught with anxiety and worry and a lot of stress. 
Having a child with ED makes us so vulnerable and emotional and very sensitive. It is easy to feel hurt or attacked when we feel down. We really are here to support each other and help. 
I wish all the best and hope you find the comfort and support and kindness that  you need during this time of your life. 


"Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud"- Maya Angelou
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel'- Maya Angelou
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Torie
Dear mods, I think it may be kinder and more civil to write to us off-list than to publicly shame us when we fall short of your expectations. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Kali

Hi Torie

Please don't take this post personally, it has nothing to do with you in anyway! 

This is a difficult time of year for many and is just a reminder.

Kali

Food=Love
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Kali

Dear ATDT community,

Just a little reminder that using a photo of your child in your avatar can be invasive of their privacy and as this is a public forum, can be seen by anyone, and because of that, is not recommended. 

Kali

Food=Love
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Enn
Thank you Kali.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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atdt31_US

Under 7 parents can decide to post photos if they are not embarrising or can do any other harm (But who decides that? Is it already embarrasing to post a photo in an ED facebook forum?). From age 7 to 14 parents need the consent of the child (as the owner of the data "photo" to do that). From age 14 you need a written consent and if you do it against your childs will you can be forced to pay for that by court. In France that costs up to 45000 €. Or one year jail...



Just curious -- is this true only parent to child, or can a child also not post photo of another child without consent?  Like friend posting pic of friend??  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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greekdude
(until feelings and face expressions can be adequately presented in a digital form) written speech will always have this possible harmful side-effect / consequence of being misunderstood. pls ppl stay away from politics!
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