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sk8r31
This inspirational blog post from the F.E.A.S.T. main site is the latest in a number of 'lived experience' blog posts.  It is written by the daughter of one of F.E.A.S.T.'s board members and is published with her permission.

I think it will give all parents/carers HOPE while they are struggling right now, and especially if they are asking whether ED will ruin the relationship with their kid forever.  I would have loved to have read this when we were in the 'dark days'.

Thanks so much Kinsey for writing these powerful words!
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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toothfairy
I love that blog post.
There is such an important message there. My kid absolutely hated me during re-feeding and for about 9 months into treatment. I had to make peace with the fact that he may hate me forever, and I may lose my relationship with him; but I had to save his life.
Roll on the clock and I have a son in very strong recovery, and we have a fabulous relationship.
He does not even remember most of the re-feeding days.
Best Wishes. 
Food is the medicine. Recovery is possible.
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mnmomUSA
Love.  So much truth here.  It is very hard to be "in the moment" when your child is swearing they will hate you forever.  Very hard.  Many nights, I cried myself to sleep wondering what the heck I was doing, and whether the damage was irreparable.  I swear to you, it is not.  Your child WILL come back.  Mine did.  And our relationship today is fantastic.  Heck, it might even be BETTER than it otherwise would have been without anorexia.  Anorexia taught me to be a better parent.  It made me appreciate the small things in life. To let go of things which didn't matter.  To love my child....no matter what...and really understand what that means.

Hang in there parents!  Keep up the hard, hard work.
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
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