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cm72
My 12 yr old daughter who was diagnosed in Aug/Sept 2018 has been saying she feels like bingeing lately. She is not weight restored yet. She was close but then has lost weight recently. I'm not sure how since we stepped up her food intake. Honestly, she is stuck to me like glue at all times so I think I would know or hear her throwing up as she leaves the bathroom door open most of the time when going to the bathroom.
I actually saw a bingeing episode for once on New Year's Eve. I had a bunch of food out and she just went nuts.  
How should I handle it when she says she wants to binge? A lot of times it's when she's bored.
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Torie
Do you think it would work to let her know you are always happy to put together a snack for her?  (Good mix of carbs, protein, fats.)  And if she wants more than that - no problem; you will prepare more for her in a bit?  Others will have ideas too, I'm sure xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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needhelp
Oh that is so tricky - yet how exciting that she wants to eat.  I think Torie's idea is fabulous.  If you have portions in baggies that are readily available, perhaps that could be helpful - then she wouldn't be just digging into bags or boxes.  My daughter used to be challenged by having a bunch of food out.  She avoided family style food events, with all the food out and not portioned.  Now it's not such an issue - but that was a concern. Sending hugs!!
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Ellesmum
Binging or extreme hunger? 
Keep a close watch for purging of course but she might be asking ‘permission’ to honour her very real hunger.  
Ellesmum
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teecee

I was going to say the same as Ellesmum. This was something that happened in our home and we allowed our D to eat as much as she needed. She stressed about ‘bingeing’ and worried that she may not be able to stop but it did slow down. It was down to the extreme and prolonged hunger. 

We provided a variety of foods....

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Ellesmum
This is a helpful read  https://edinstitute.org/paper/2012/5/22/extreme-hunger-1-what-is-it
Ellesmum
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mamabear

I think she needs more food. Higher calories and higher fats. You said she recently lost and you don’t know how? It’s because she’s 12. She’s in the period Of life of the most growth and change besides infancy. It is totally normal for their needs to INCREASE in this age range. My daughter was diagnosed at 10.5. She initially gained on 3000 then needed 4,5,6000 a day. From age 11-14 she had 6000 a day to deal with growth and puberty. Then things normalized. She’s now 19.5 in full recovery for many years. 

This does not al all sound like a bad thing. She needs more food. 

Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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Frazzled
I agree with mamabear. My daughter was 10.5 when diagnosed also. She is 12 now. I have had to continually bump up calories to see growth and gain etc. A couple months ago I noticed that her mood took a dip and some behaviors were coming back. After bumping up calories and fats she was back on track. With puberty and her body getting ready for menses plus catching up in height and all the repairs needed it is insane how much they need. I am hoping it will calm down a bit after menstruation starts. If she hasn’t had her period yet, maybe her body is gearing up for that and she needs more to get through. 
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cm72
I didn't realize there were more responses on here. Whoops!
Thanks for the feedback. I am getting hopeful because she is going back for seconds after her meals sometimes. Usually it's just the veggies but at least it's a start.
The problem now is that we are dealing with bloating and very upset stomach just like we did in the beginning. I'm not sure if it's due to this increased feeding or if there is something else going on. She's very gassy and belches a lot too. This has been going on for two weeks and she is now wanting to skip her evening snack because she's so uncomfortable. If it was your kid, would you take them to the doctor to get checked out? I can't decide.
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Francie
Hi cm72, if your daughter is feeling uncomfortable, especially to the point she is wanting to skip her evening snack due to discomfort, I would take her to the doctor without hesitation. It should help her discomfort and if she has worries about how her body is reacting to the food. Perhaps the doc can make a recommendation about something she can take to reduce the gassiness. It might be reassuring to your d to have that doctor visit. Yes, go for it. Good luck! XO

Francie

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Frazzled
Hi cm72, It could just be the veggies which are high in fiber and would cause excess gas perhaps or something else she is eating. It wouldn’t hurt to take her to the doctor just in case so both of you feel better and can treat at home without worries. Do what you did at the beginning of refeeding which is heating pad, probiotics, enzymes or even gas x to help reduce stomach pain from gas and the enzymes would help break down lactase etc to help decrease gas and aide in digestion as well. Hope she feels better soon! 
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ValentinaGermania
We had that problems up to a year after WR and still have with food that his high in fiber. Mushrooms, vegetables, full grain products...
Our GP said that can last up to 5 years in recovery. If you are sure it is from eating more I would wait. If you think it could be something else there is no reason why not take her to the doctor. Only thing I would avoid is that they want to do some stomach or other examination that asks her to not eat for a day before...
I personally think this is due to more food now.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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cm72
Thanks again. I have an appointment for today just for reassurance but yes, I won't do any tests where she doesn't eat. 
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