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Yesterday my d and I opened presents alone as she would not attend family gathering, thinking she is too overweight. She is WR. Anyway, she will not go out much, not into stores but here is what she did. She filled a bag with notes from her heart thanking me for every little thing I do for her and every other note said I love you. This is where I see the gift of this terrible illness..fleeting moments of deep love and joy that most people do not experience. The angels are with us seeing that their flowers bloom inside and heal them. What a test of patience, faith, kindness, understanding. We are all soldiers fighting this battle. Today, unfortunately, it's a step back. But as Columbus said, " Today we sailed on."
Denise holmes
That is one of the most touching things I've ever read.  Bless you and your daughter. 
Heartbroken Mom
Kinteacher,  that is a very sweet gift.  My d gave me a gift like that last mothers day.  It is a treasure.  

How long has your d been fighting this dreaded ed?    You are a wonderful mom obviously your d thinks so too!
Tender moments, love, affection and a supportive mom = moving forward 1 day at a time!   I loved your columbus quote!

Keep sailing and you will land on full recovery !  Your beautiful girl will get there!

Hugs and more hugs!

That is a really beautiful gift!!!
That made me cry! Really special. My daughter wrote me a song... I bawled.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
That is such a beautiful gift your D gave you.

I feel that my relationship with our D has become so close/intense as we battle through this disease together.  Sometimes, I think it might be too close in that she is quite dependent on me and I find it very hard to leave her when I go to work.

I think our Ds feel a lot of guilt about the impact of their disease on their families and loved ones.  It must be torture to feel in torment on the inside and then also see the worry and distress it causes everyone.

It is so lovely that she has managed to write down her thank yous and give them to you and it must be very healing for both of you.

Love with keep you both strong and get you through this.

Diagnosed RAN October 2013, w/r but struggling with depression and anxiety.
Just lovely. I really feared at first this disease would be the final nail in the coffin for my relationship with my daughter,which has been tenuous at times. But now it appears she is truly grateful for the intervention and the guidance (she is 19 and away at college) to get better.

We have to remember the ED is talking when they shout "I hate you!" as we work on getting them wr. It's hard, I've spent many tearful times, but when I think of the ED as a demon that's overtaken my daughter, it helps me cope.

Sounds like you have much to be thankful for despite this battle. Best wishes.
Libby fisher