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Why do some foods never stop being challenge foods? Several months in and nuts/peanut butter still are challenging. Even though she’s ate them loads of times.
Its funny how different their fear foods are. Mine will only eat peanut butter with no added sugar etc abd eats nuts but loses it if I put a tsp of honey or oil in a recipe! Mind you she tries to weigh nuts!

It is perplexing what constitutes a fear food or not. It is complicated, i would think. 

Why do some people fear balloons or loud noises, or whatever...
I think it has to with your past beliefs, environment, associations, lack of knowledge, ED rules that the child uses. I don't know, but it is an interesting topic. 
I found this:



When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Interesting discussion and link and Scaredmom, as you say, why would 1 person fear balloons, another loud noises. It seems like it is an individual thing and once fixed, it's hard to shift the thinking around it...

My d seems atypical in this regard: WR 5 months and fine with most food groups and can eat pizza, crisps, chocolate, cake etc.  so all the typical fear foods (though never in a binge way) but struggles with a proper meal with component parts. I can't imagine her eating a roast dinner or chop and potatoes and veg or  fish and chips, for example.  She can do it socially, though. I think for her it is  more about the amount of food on a plate (I don't know, though.) Odd.

She still doesn't really like food, has historically preferred grazing to a big meal and I think wants it over with fairly quickly so we are still packing food into a small footprint. Mostly not adding oil etc, though.

Thanks for starting this thread....interesting. Anyone else similar or odd fears?
I often find that my D will say "you just want me to eat nuts because it has a lot of calories". So I think she equates certain things with calories. Plus it seems to depend on her mood that day. One day she can have a pizza bagel and be fine. The next day she's so nervous about it.
Smileymom-fascinating about her eating all that and not a standard meal. I guess they all have something they are hung up about. 
Scaredmom-I definitely think that fear foods are very complicated and have a whole psychological reason as to why they are fearful to the individual. It seems to sure take a long time to break through that fear.
Faddywrite-I bet we would all be surprised to hear what is fearful to each individual child. Like i'm sure there are plenty of carers out there who would LOVE to have their child eat what mine eats. I know I sometimes am envious when I hear of people having their kids drink or eat a certain thing. But we will get there with time. 
My daughter had few fear foods when ill, it was always about the calories for her. Anything with oils or fats. She seemed to find it in foods and somehow used to manage to squeeze out oils even if really well mixed. 

She would eat icecream and chocolate however if she thought she knew how many calories was in it, but would also eat bigger volumes if she thought it meant no fats for the same calories. It truly didn't make a lot of sense.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.