My daughter, aged 20, three years in just wrote a brilliant piece in her blog. i have copied and pasted a small bit that resonates with me. I am the person looking on... we have done it in the family environment having had a nightmare time 'in the system', don't get me started! We have come so far in the last year, but we seem to have reached that transition period and just can not move on... The contemplation stage.
Does anyone know what I mean? Did you go through this and do you have any thoughts/tips to move along quickly! She is currently studying which has been amazing, she is what i would call a functioning anorexic. Just need to get the weight on!
(Below is what she wrote)
Probably anorexia’s most frustrating feature for the person looking on, willing the sufferer to get better and not understanding why he or she doesn’t, is the baffling chasm between insight and action. Anorexia is perhaps unusual amongst mental illnesses in that the coexistence of a profound understanding of the ways in which the disorder is negatively affecting one’s life and health with a complete inability to act on that understanding by embarking on recovery isn’t just an anomalous feature of the illness in a minority of sufferers some of the time, but seems to be one of its core traits.
There’s usually an earlier phase of illness in which the sufferer denies that anything is wrong, but once denial comes to an end and is replaced by acceptance of the fact of being ill, there is all too often a striking failure to then make the next transition: to eating more and starting to get better.
The defining characteristic of the ‘contemplation’ phase, in which the problem is acknowledged and change is contemplated but not yet committed to, is ambivalence. In this stage, which can last a long time, very small things can make a difference, can shift the delicate balance slightly away from the status quo. In the evolution of any successful recovery process, many forces act in many different directions, and the difference between failure and success may be only a minute imbalance in favour of either stasis or change.
As difficult as it can be to accept, relapse is actually a natural aspect of recovery. Relapse, which is defined as returning to a level of disordered eating after a period of full or partial remission from these behaviours, commonly occurs in about 35-60% of individuals recovering from Anorexia.
Many thanks for your time and welcome your response.