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Bontoplen_USA
Hello all,my d is having a lot of problems and we have decided it is best to pull her out of school for the rest of the year. Is this possible with only a month left?What is needed/procedure,ect.I appreciate any info
Bontoplen
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yanoskimama
I too have the same question.
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Torie
The district needs to comply with state law regarding absences, and each district will have its own policies within the bounds established by state law. The PA school code is here:

http://www.pacode.com/secure/data/022/chapter11/chap11toc.html

And this might be the pertinent section:

http://www.pacode.com/secure/data/022/chapter11/s11.25.html

§ 11.25. Temporary excusals due to illness or other urgent reasons.

 (a)  A principal or teacher may, upon receipt of satisfactory evidence of mental, physical or other urgent reasons, excuse a student for nonattendance during a temporary period, but the term ‘‘urgent reasons’’ shall be strictly construed and does not permit irregular attendance. A school district shall adopt rules and procedures governing temporary excusals that may be granted by principals and teachers under this section. Temporary excusals may not exceed 3 months.

 (b)  A school district, area vocational technical school, charter or independent school may provide students temporarily excused under this section with homebound instruction for a period not to exceed 3 months. A school district, area vocational technical school, charter or independent school may request approval from the Department to extend the provision of homebound instruction, which shall be reevaluated every 3 months. When a student receives homebound instruction, the student may be counted for attendance purposes as if in school. A school district shall be reimbursed for homebound instruction provided to a student under section 2510.1 of the Public School Code of 1949 (24 P. S. §  25-2510.1).

 (c)  A school district shall adopt policies that describe the instructional services that are available to students who have been excused under this section. The policies must include statements that define the responsibilities of both the district and the student with regard to these instructional services.

Hope that helps. Good luck. xx

-Torie

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Bontoplen_USA
Yikes, looks like principal can excuse.Not a good thing.
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Torie
Bontoplen_USA wrote:
Yikes, looks like principal can excuse.Not a good thing.


I'm not sure what you're trying to do ... homeschool? Medical leave? 

You could try calling the Philadelphia Law Project - I called them once, and they answered my question even though they generally only deal with Philadelphia issues. Good luck. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Bontoplen_USA
Torie, sorry I was not clear, as you know D has been having alot of problems, suicidal thoughts, cutting, ect. Spent 2 weeks in a partial program. She is increasingly more depressed, refusing to eat more frequently ( Sunday would not eat until 3pm),Monday night she fell off the trampoline, I took her to the ER on Tuesday for xrays,they put a splint on her and told us to follow up with ortho.When we got home she admitted to faking the whole thing!She is desperate to get out of school because she says she can't make it through the day without crying ect. I can't see putting the stress of school on her at this point. I am just looking to pull her out for the remainder of the year.She will go back next year(starting middle school),but at this point we need to amp up her therapy and concentrate on getting her well. I just want to be done with the year.
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Francie
Hi Bontpolen, sorry you find yourself in the situation you're in. We had to pull our daughter out of school twice - once in HS and now recently from college (due to the HS experience we purchased tuition insurance so we got SOME money back). In both instances, I would say it was the right decision even though each time it was very, very difficult to do. In fact, I would say we waited too long to pull her from school the first time. She was so ill she doesn't even remember the last weeks of school prior to being pulled out.

Perhaps you can meet with the principal and request that a tutor come to the house to get her through the remainder of the schoolwork so she completes the year. I know of one mom whose school district allowed that - a tutor came to the home and her d was able to keep up with schoolwork and complete the year. Or, if you're going to send her to a program perhaps there will be a school program there.

It sounds as if your d is very young. On the one hand I am very sorry she's suffering at such a young age. On the other hand since she's still so young you still have a lot of influence on her, and leverage, and time. Good luck to you.

Francie

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Tali97
Hi Bontoplen,

In the passed we pulled my ED son out of school and sent a letter to the principal stating that we would be homeschooling.

Since you only have a month left of school can you get a doctors note to say that she is excused for a month or something similar? 
Will the school care if you tell them she will be absent until the end of the school year?
When I pulled my son they knew they were failing to meet his needs and were not making efforts to ensure his safety. 
It sounds like they are not providing her with a situation which allows her to feel safe and so is able to learn. Thus they are not doing their job so should not give you trouble if you choose to with draw her from school rather than making trouble for them by making them do their job.
18 year old boy (Gluten Free/Dairy Free 2005)
 IP - March/April 2014.  ARFID.
 2015 - Gastroparisis
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