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Our daughter was weight restored and pretty highly functional For 8 years but fell apart when Covid interrupted college and she lost her job. She is now severely restricting and is exercising compulsively and she’s also a Type 1 Diabetic. We are heading to UCSD but there is a 2-3 week admission time. What can we legally do without having her 5150ed? We all have severe PTSD from “treatment” she received initially 8 years ago. (We finally found UCSD and that’s how she recovered.) We are terrified she’s going to collapse when she’s out exercising. She came home wanting help but she can’t control herself and she can get REALLY nasty. Is there anything we can do besides a 5150 or waiting for her to physically collapse and be hospitalized for medical reasons? We don’t have any bargaining power as she’s in such a depressed state that college isn’t an incentive now, nothing is....

Hi there I note you have been a forum member since 2014 I am glad you posted.
The biggest issue in my mind for your d is if she is being assessed medically and regularly.
If she is medically unstable she will require admission of course and the USCD program May then be put on hold. 

Is she taking her insulin? If not as you know she can go into DKA and then she will have to be admitted
I am not familiar with 5150 I am from Canada. Others from the states  will be here soon, I am sure. I think it is a form that would be signed if she were medically incompetent? I am just inferring  here.

I am so sorry that you are all going through this again after so many years. You are not alone. Are you able to supervise and feed her? I get she is an adult but extraordinary times require extraordinary measures and sometimes that means taking full control even if she is an adult. My d is a child so I do have that leverage, so please take what I have said with a pound of salt. 

The ‘adult’ part is such a difficult piece.
I am hoping she lets you take care of her. 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)

Is your daughter home from school now? If so, are you preparing meals and is she eating them? Maybe you can start adding calories somewhere. Can you employ any of the tools you learned 8 years ago to the current situation? I know it is so hard when they are older.

You said she came home wanting help. Is there a therapist that might help with the depression while you are waiting for USCD? Maybe even telehealth. 
My son is also home from college right now and it has been bumpy to say the least.I know the thought of going through this again for you and your daughter is so stressful but you have the wisdom and also the support here. 



Oh dang, I 'm so sorry you are having this difficulty.  As though COVID didn't already cause enough problems, what a nightmare for it to precipitate another descent down the rabbit hole.  Ugh.

I wonder if your d is financially dependent on you, and if so if there is something - anything - in the financial arena to provide leverage.  Phone, car, gas, insurance, college come to mind as some areas that others have used as leverage for their young adults.

I am curious if you have signed up for UCSD's 5-day family intensive program or a different type/level of care.  Either way, I hope they will be willing and able to prioritize your d and get her in sooner.

Please keep us posted.

Thinking of you. xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP