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Our D is 17, weighs 100lb, height 5'5".  

We're refeeding and she's gaining approx 1lb a week, (and is, for the most part, fairly compliant).  

Her hormone history -
Periods - first one age 15, then nothing until almost the very same week 1 year later! Then nothing again for a few months.  Went to doc, he did bloods & said hormones fine, must be BMI (but didn't flag up to me that this was really too low, and I didn't know any better) so "try eating more".  She did this, and periods started to come, although not regular.  Since she had her first period at 15, she's probably had something like 9 or 10 periods in her life, some normal, some very slight, and no pattern or rhythm. Before we worked out this was an ED, she went some months without one, which prompted us to go to the doc. Bloods still show hormones are fine, scan showed possible PCO on one ovary.

Breasts - she started getting breast buds normally, I think about age 12, and then developed breasts enough to need a (very small) bra around age 13/14 (can't remember exactly).  I haven't seen her naked or topless for a few years, and she has had a clothing allowance for quite a while, so the fact that her breasts weren't developing has slipped by me (didn't twig that there were no bigger bras in the laundry....).  Before we discovered ED she came to me to say she thought there was something wrong with her because "her body is like a 10 year old's" and she wears 4 bras at a time to give herself some shape.

So, I wonder if anyone else has experience they could share of an older teen with tiny breasts and non-existent/haywire periods and can tell me whether they'll grow normally once she's WR?  Not having a good shape is (understandably) quite worrying for her.  She isn't typical AN in that she honestly is not concerned about putting on weight - to the contrary, she wants to be more curvy, have legs "that don't look like sticks", and generally resemble her best friend (who is normal weight and quite curvy).  And yes, I am certain about this!  

She doesn't have anxiety about food.
She doesn't purge or use laxatives.
She doesn't over exercise (quite the opposite....)

And yes, I am 100% positive about these.....  

But she is very underweight, has SED and probably ARFID, and feels full/sick on small amounts of food, also has depression and OCD tendencies.

I'd like to give her some reassurances that she will grow "proper" breasts as she gains more weight, but would like to know it myself first!

Edited to add - Just done weigh in and she's gained 2lb this week - woohoo!

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I dunno much about this, linefine other than that breast size is as hereditary as other physical characteristics - so she should prolly end up looking like you and other female relatives.

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
We experienced a bit of this.  My dd had regular periods until she started restricting, then none until we got her weight restored, they were still a bit hit and miss until she was a higher weight.  She had a decent bust too prior anorexia, but these soon disappeared too, however she has been weight restored since April 15 and they have returned over the last 2 months.  I did not know what people meant when they said that once a child has starved themselves and they gain weight this is distributed around the middle to protect the organs.  But I can see that now as my dd has now got a much more hour glass figure, thinner waist but with a decent bust as before.  It took a long time but I would say her figure is back to pre-anorexia, which is great.  I hope this gives you some reassurance. We are 15 month into this battle and beginning to see that some of our hard work is paying off, Good luck.x
17 years old, well into recovery and taking full control of food herself and gaining weight, she's loving life at the minute, it does get better!!
We have slow breast development here too. It may just be a family thing.

With respect to her ovaries though - I thought I should draw to your attention that polycystic appearing ovaries can be part and parcel of recovery from anorexia. So until she is weight restored there is not too much that can be drawn from their appearance. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2867390
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.