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wildestdreams
Hello, 

I'm new here and have posted a little about my D's ED, recovery, and the anxiety she's now experiencing. Another problem we're having is her total inability to be.. bored. The girl ALWAYS has to be doing something, and the prospect of a day with no plans can literally bring her to tears. 

She's just finished her first semester of law school, where the other students weren't the friendliest. She went to college out of state, so all of her close friends are now scattered across the country. She has a wonderful boyfriend, but he is in school and works 2 jobs, so obviously isn't always available. We're now facing nearly a month of winter break where she will have no plans, and I'm afraid of the slump that she is likely to fall into. Having nothing to do drives her (and in turn, me!) absolutely insane. I've never met anyone who needs to be out and about as badly as she does. She has looked for volunteer positions but not heard anything back, and most of the holiday hiring jobs filled before she was finished with her finals. 

Has anyone else experienced this with their kids? Did you find a solution?

I would dream of a month to lounge around and watch netflix but not my girl....


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OneToughMomma
Hi wildest,

Oh to have such a problem as an empty month!  But seriously, I do get it.  My d was the same.

Can you create a job/hobby? 
  • Redecorate/paint a room? 
  • Are you in the northern hemisphere?  Maybe establishing a garden bed is out of the question due to the weather. 
  • There are indoor plants and terrariums are big right now.
  • Start an online course on drawing/painting? 
  • Start scrapbooking--how many old photos do you have that need putting into albums?
  • Learn to knit (Colleen found that very therapeutic with her D) or sew.
  • Learn to play an instrument?
  • start writing?
  • If you celebrate Christmas she could help you do it really well.  Cards, shopping, wrapping, decorating, newsletters etc can take up so much of a family's time (esp in the US, I find.)
  • Make gifts (see Pinterest!)
  • Is she organized? (assuming so, since she's in law school) I find a bullet journal and a habit tracker help keep me focused.  She could research the best one and get started for next year.

Could she start work on next semester somehow?  Get one of the textbooks?

Take care and let us know how she choses to spend her time.

xoOTM

PS edited cause I thought of more.
D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]
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Foodsupport_AUS
I think this is a common problem. My D was also the same. The more time she had on her hands the stronger her ED thoughts were hence her need to be distracted from them 24/7. 
At her sickest she also was incapable of thinking what things would be good to fill the gap. She found reading books and watching TV nowhere near distracting enough.  It was definitely exhausting for me trying to entertain her or think of entertainment. 

I started my D in jewellery making classes
She also got involved in origami and crochet amiguri
I arranged day outings to places like the zoo

The good news is she can now chill out as well as any teen or young adult.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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enoughalready1
Can she volunteer?  There are so many places available.  My daughter volunteered at a library when she was younger.  Many places will work around a school schedule. 
Mother of 21-year-old
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