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I came across a site with a book that seemed to capture my attention.  
We have been considering getting our D some counseling even though, honestly, she has bee improving even the past week or so emotionally.  When we first started refeeding, about 2-3 weeks ago, there were emotional outbursts pretty much every day.  It's now been about 5-6 days with only a few outbursts, and even those have not been as bad.
I'm just wondering if by going to a therapist, this may slow down our progress and make our D take a step backwards in regard to her recovery?
We are supposed to have an appointment this Friday, here in USA, eastern time zone.  I sure would appreciate any insight.  
Anyway, this book, it was a lady who has a lot of self help skills that are used after weight restoration has been achieved.  

Thanks so much,

My advice is to take it one day at a time and concentrate on refeeding. As you said the book is focused on what to do after weight restoration. If you feel like she is making progress, keep doing what you are doing. But she does need her blood and vitals monitored.
I second debra18's advice.  From our experience, and my reading on this forum and elsewhere, our ED children are simply not equipped to benefit from therapy until they are weight restored, and the brain has had plenty of time to start healing.  Our therapist tried some gentle counselling very early in proceedings (too early, we later agreed, although at that stage my d was 95% WR), and I'm afraid it may have contributed to our d's current aversion to therapy (WR for eight months, into Stage 2 of FBT).  It's wonderful that your d is making such great progress.  Keep doing what you're doing.  Don't rush things.
Hi Bakeyser,

Tabitha Ferrar, the author, is a very well respected eating disorder coach who herself suffered from Anorexia. Her books are on my list of books to read in the future! However many of us have found that it is not helpful for someone who is very ill to read about anorexia. But it is certainly possible that she might have some tips and info in her book which could help inform how you manage the situation with your daughter.