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hopefulyetscared
Anyone familiar with this book, Body Image Workbook for Teens by Julia V. Taylor?

I'm thinking of giving it to my 14 yo D and ask/require her to read it and work through the 40 activities in the book. Maybe only 1-2 a week?

This book is not an ED book, but aims to "help girls develop a healthy body image in an image-obsessed world."

I just purchased the book and have started to read it. I can't see any down side of using it (other than getting my D to buy into it that it may help.)

I can't think of a reason it can be triggering to the ED. But wanted see if any of you had any opinions. I think the fact that it addresses teen girls as a whole and not only those with ED may help it be less intimidating.

Your thoughts always appreciated...thanks!
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EC_Mom
I wouldn't give this to someone with active ED or recently recovered. Active ED cannot engage rationally. It twists everything into self-loathing and more reasons not to eat. In early recovery our T did games and pen-paper exercises totally unrelated to eating, that were aimed at loosening up rigid thinking. Maybe at some point it is possible to try to get a recovering sufferer to try to deal rationally with body image but it doesn't seem like a good idea to me.
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OneToughMomma
hys,

That's a no from me.

It's a bit like giving someone fresh out of orthopaedic surgery a jogging regime. Just not right, even if you expect them to jog only a little each week.

OTM
D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]
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Torie

Hi HYS - I'm not familiar with that book, but my instinct is to be leery.  Even one "activity" per week might be breakneck speed for an ED sufferer.   

I don't know if this would be helpful to anyone else or not, but my d decided to pick one thing about herself (physical self) to try to accept.  She picked her eyes.  I think it took her a long time to accept her eyes, but eventually she was ready to move on to try one other thing - her hair, I think.  Others here may think this is a bad idea, too, but I thought I'd toss it out there.
  
I can't remember where your d is along the path to recovery, but my d had been wr for quite some time before she was ready for this.

Another idea is maybe you would want to pick one idea from the book - just one, for starters - and see how that goes.

Best of luck. xx

-Torie

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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MumTo2UK
I've just been browsing Amozon for this and came across this in the same category. No idea whether it's any good or not though.

What's Eating You?: A Workbook for Teens With Anorexia, Bulimia, & Other Eating Disorders: A Workbook for Teens with Anorexia, Bulimia, and Other Eating Disorders

Mum of 17 year old daughter with AN seeking guidance
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mrh74
I'm only at the start of this journey and nowhere near as knowledgeable as the others, but I bought that book when my daughter was experiencing body image issues, before she lost weight and was referred to the eating disorders team.  I didn't show it to her as she was only 11 at the time and wasn't sure whether she was too young.  She then lost weight and was referred to the ED team with an emerging ED.

When I mentioned the book, and the possibility of boosting my daughter's body confidence to the ED nurse recently her view was that we can't start to work on body confidence until she is weight restored, otherwise she will become too comfortable with her body as it is, i.e.underweight.  A slightly different perspective and one that I hadn't considered.....

Good luck!

Maria
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hopefulyetscared
Really good points. That's why I ask you all...I think I'll pass on sharing it with her for now.

@MumTo2UK I hadn't seen that particular book, but I just looked at it. I guess I would be hesitant to give my D this book since it discusses ED in general, including bulimia and over eating too (my D has RAN). That's why the other book appealed more to me since it dealt with body image in general and not ED's. But I understand that rational thinking and "normal" teenage body image activities might not connect with my D while she still has an ED so I'm going to hold off on books for now. But thanks for the info.
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Psycho_Mom
Hi,

It's not a workbook, but Freeing Your Child from Anxiety (Tamar Chansky) helped me to help my d a good deal, whenever she was having anxiety, including about body image stuff. It helped me understand and figure out what would help her, and it has practical strategies. It's got a small section particularly for older sufferers. 

best wishes,
D diagnosed with EDNOS May 2013 at age 15, refed at home Aug 2013, since then symptoms gradually lessened and we retaught her how to feed and care for herself, including individual therapy, family skills DBT class, SSRI medication and relapse-prevention strategies. Anxiety was pre-existing and I believe she was sporadically restricting since about age 9. She now eats and behaves like any normal older teen, and is enjoying school, friends, sports, music and thinking about the future.
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hopefulyetscared
Thanks Psycho_Mom I will check out this book. Always looking for recommendations...
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