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Lovely Post by PsychoMom on the role 'panic' plays in this whole refeeding business!  sigh!


I felt 'back in the trenches' reading it.  That constant feeling of panic we live with for soooo long.  A constant companion of panic.  

Comment on the blog if you can.

Also:  forum parents who would like to write a blog post we would so welcome you!!
You can use your forum name if need be.  It is really helpful for parents (and clinicians) to hear the perspective of parents.

THANKS, Psycho Mom!

D dx at 10 years old in June 2011. She is now 16 and happy and healthy.  We were IP for 8 weeks and then refed at home for what felt like forever.  We chased vertical growth for years...as is typical for the age.
A great article.  Really well written and perfectly encapsulates the horror of it all!  As you say, Anotherbite, sets off all those feelings again.  Ugg!

Love it Psycho Mom!!

I would love to see you do a stand up comic routine...perhaps it could be arranged at an ED conference?!

Thanks for giving parents hope, along with a good laugh....cause we gotta laugh on this horrendous journey sometimes.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
I want to comment.... But how can I do it using mamabear?

Awesome read! I loved it. I would like to write something for it.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
I see what you mean. I tried to reply to a reply and I can't use "PsychoMom." I dunno, but maybe just use Anonymous and identify yourself as mamabear in the body of the reply. Thanks!!
D diagnosed with EDNOS May 2013 at age 15, refed at home Aug 2013, since then symptoms gradually lessened and we retaught her how to feed and care for herself, including individual therapy, family skills DBT class, SSRI medication and relapse-prevention strategies. Anxiety was pre-existing and I believe she was sporadically restricting since about age 9. She now eats and behaves like any normal older teen, and is enjoying school, friends, sports, music and thinking about the future.
I was able to reply.  If my memory serves me correctly (and that is HIGHLY questionable!) I clicked on Name/URL and just typed in my ATDT name, no URL.
Mom of a 19 yr old. RAN diagnosed 1/2014. Residential, PHP, IOP. W/R since late summer 2014. Now in remission and thriving in her second year at university. My Faith remains.
Nice post, PM! I particularly love this: "Panic is useful. It gives you energy to do nutty things like lift cars off squished people or put Nutella on an anorexic's toast."

Sending positive thoughts your way. xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
I loved this post. Because panic is and was so much a part of my own reaction that I had to deal with, but PsychoMom made it into a positive, something that made me more effective. Which it did. I wish it could have been done without the panic, but the panic made me stronger than I might otherwise have been.
Great blog
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Great blog, PM!  Your humor in the face of this demon has been refreshing, enlightening.
I am so happy for you and your d on her progress and the ability for her to take such a awesome trip!
Psycho Mom, so we'll done! Your straight forward, tell it like it is with humor voice is so right on. Helpful to see how even a "negative" like panic can be a useful weapon against ED.

But if you’re waking up nightly with a scream in your head—good for you. You have understood the nature of the enemy. 

Absolutely! Such a powerful statement.

Great blog post and you always have insightful advice on here. Thank you for making such a difference.
15yr old d. June 2014 stomach pain. Medical investigations until Feb 2015, referred to CAMHs dx food anxiety. Kept restricting and losing weight until July 2015, medically unstable. Began intensive re-feeding at home. Re-evaluated by psychiatrist, dx Autism Spectrum Disorder and Atypical AN.
Found out it's actually Typical AN.
IP from Oct 15, ng tube Nov. Re-started eating food July 2016. Discharged from IP August 2016 97% weight for height.
Anyone who wishes to write a post message me. All welcome. I keeping with FEAST principles is the only criteria. Explore whatever topic you would like to explore. You can use forum name or you own in byline.

Mamabear, write it and send it to me.
D dx at 10 years old in June 2011. She is now 16 and happy and healthy.  We were IP for 8 weeks and then refed at home for what felt like forever.  We chased vertical growth for years...as is typical for the age.