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ValentinaGermania
I really get why some therapists think that accepting the weight and the gain is part of recovery but I also believe it is a thing that needs to be worked on at that time - in recovery - and not in the dark days. When the brain is recovered and they can think normal again they can understand all that better and they will learn to accept it more easily. There is no need to torment them with open weighings in the dark days when this causes more stress and pain.

When someone survived a plane crash you would not ask him to get on a plan again the next day. You would wait until he is stable and calmed down about it and then you would try it again.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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CED123
hendrixt - just thought I would drop back in to say it sounds as though you guys are doing a fantastic job with your daughter, and we all appreciate how hard that will have been but you are doing great.
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
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Hendrixt
CED123 wrote:
hendrixt - just thought I would drop back in to say it sounds as though you guys are doing a fantastic job with your daughter, and we all appreciate how hard that will have been but you are doing great.


Thanks CED that's really nice of you to say. Reading other people's stories I think we haven't had it quite as hard as some - particularly yourself. So we've never (not yet anyway touch wood) had to consider inpatient treatment and been able to do everything at home with FBT. I think this is because we were lucky in that we caught it early on - she had only been restricting for 5 months when we discovered it. And of course, I found this website very soon after diagnosis in May.  That's not to say we haven't had a total nightmare with re-feeding and things have only started to calm down in the last 2 - 3 weeks as she is in the lower portion of her range of w/r. I am still permanently home (being allowed to work from home by my employer) and D still sleeps with mum. All meals are still supervised. 

I think we've done well up to now but I'm under no illusions as to the fact we've only achieved part of the journey and we have to be constantly vigilant and pushing and challenging the ED until he is finally gone.

Best wishes to you and your family
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