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sammspiess
wondering if my D is having a manic episode?! After a 17 day water fast she had started to refeed herself for the first time ever, she has completely jumped into it the past two weeks eating large amounts of food and things she hasn’t eaten in years it’s quite astonishing considering it’s been three years of fighting restrictions hospital admissions and so fourth. She also has extreme energy she sleeps one hour and will walk two hours to work then waitress all day go out with friends drinking then repeat the next day, also she has become obsessed with cleaning... keep in mind three weeks ago my daughters laundry basket was probably full of three weeks worth of unwashed clothes and her room was filthy, now she scrubs her walls and I’ve heard from her friends she has been cleaning their houses when she goes over. She also is extremely friendly and her self confidence is through the roof. I’m not sure what to do about this. She’s gotten 4 hours of sleep this week and seems to have super strength, she weighs 85lbs at 5”7” and yesterday I watched her carry four metal chairs across the street because she was throwing a party and she did while running, also I watched her blow up a gigantic pool floatie that would take me about two hours and I would probably have to use a pump, took her five minutes..... anyone know what the hell is happening.... physical symptoms would be that she has extreme dry mouth, constant urination and she is having frequent healthy stools five-six times a day. This is very scary to me 
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tina72
Sounds very much like over-exercising, water loading (constant urination) and maybe misuse of laxatives (stool five times a day is not normal).

"85lbs at 5”7”"
This sounds very concerning and she should see a doctor soon. This is a very dangerous low weight and she should have bed rest and do NOTHING but eat.
She should not work any more and not as a waitress which is a very exhausting job. She has no calories left to spend on that in that state. She should be in bed and be using a wheel chair. That is really serious, she can die in that bad state. Please take her to a GP TODAY.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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sammspiess
I’m in California for two weeks I had no choice but to go for work and she is home alone for two weeks.. should I return home 
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sammspiess
sammspiess wrote:
I’m in California for two weeks I had no choice but to go for work and she is home alone for two weeks.. should I return home 
also she isn’t using laxatives she is very honest and would tell me I am 100% certain there is no laxative use, i spent there even consecutive days with her last week where I slept in bed with her because I was positive it was laxative use but no laxatives and she didn’t sleep and she hasn’t been drinking much water at all now that I think of it around two glasses a day but she is eating a ton of food 
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tina72
sammspiess wrote:
I’m in California for two weeks I had no choice but to go for work and she is home alone for two weeks.. should I return home 


To be honest, YES!
She needs hospital admission ASAP. Against her will if needed. This is possible in US I think if her health is in danger. This is a life threatening state.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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tina72
sammspiess wrote:
also she isn’t using laxatives she is very honest and would tell me I am 100% certain there is no laxative use, i spent there even consecutive days with her last week where I slept in bed with her because I was positive it was laxative use but no laxatives and she didn’t sleep and she hasn’t been drinking much water at all now that I think of it around two glasses a day but she is eating a ton of food 


I also thought my d was honest and did not lie to me and ED made her do it. They are very tricky. If she really eats tons of food there must be weight gain and again, even if she eats NOW, her health is in a very dangerous state and she should see a GP or better A&E asap. If she really started to eat much now there is a high risk of refeeding syndrom in that state and she can die from that.
Her heart rate alone is a case for A&E asap. I would call an ambulance.
The symptoms sound very concerning.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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sammspiess
I am concerned about something totally unrelated I am 100% certain she is not lying she has no car and isn’t allowed to leave her work when working as her boss knows her issues so unless she is getting them delivered somehow without her brother who is home all the time noticing she isn’t taking laxatives and I’ve watched her eat large amounts of food for two weeks on one occasion she ate an entire pizza and a pint of ice cream , I’ve had plumbing turned off so the toilets can’t be flushed and she isn’t allowed in the washroom as I lock them an hour after meals, she also is sleeping four hours a week and if she isn’t sleeping she is on her feet 
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sammspiess
sammspiess wrote:
wondering if my D is having a manic episode?! After a 17 day water fast she had started to refeed herself for the first time ever, she has completely jumped into it the past two weeks eating large amounts of food and things she hasn’t eaten in years it’s quite astonishing considering it’s been three years of fighting restrictions hospital admissions and so fourth. She also has extreme energy she sleeps one hour and will walk two hours to work then waitress all day go out with friends drinking then repeat the next day, also she has become obsessed with cleaning... keep in mind three weeks ago my daughters laundry basket was probably full of three weeks worth of unwashed clothes and her room was filthy, now she scrubs her walls and I’ve heard from her friends she has been cleaning their houses when she goes over. She also is extremely friendly and her self confidence is through the roof. I’m not sure what to do about this. She’s gotten 4 hours of sleep this week and seems to have super strength, she weighs 85lbs at 5”7” and yesterday I watched her carry four metal chairs across the street because she was throwing a party and she did while running, also I watched her blow up a gigantic pool floatie that would take me about two hours and I would probably have to use a pump, took her five minutes..... anyone know what the hell is happening.... physical symptoms would be that she has extreme dry mouth, constant urination and she is having frequent healthy stools five-six times a day. This is very scary to me 
also she has an extremly high pain tolerance all of a sudden, to the point of her coming home the other day with cuts all up her ankles bleeding through her shoes and she hasn’t even realized she forgot socks and her heels were torn open and she said she didn’t feel it at all, she also complained of wrist pain and she had broken a bone and not felt it 
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tina72
We can only tell you that her weight, her heart rate and her behaviour sound very concerning and that she should see a doctor asap. Eating large amounts of food after restriction is very dangerous. Please google refeeding syndrom.
Here kids took laxatives and self harmed and threw food away in IP under the eyes of specialized ED nurses that could not see it because they were so tricky. But no matter if she lies or not or if she takes laxatives or not her state is life threatening and she needs to see a doctor.
Her boss should not allow her even to be at work in that state, that is irresponsible. She can die there.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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tina72
That pain tolerance is due to malnutrition of her brain and to ED.
Broken bone sounds again very much like osteoporosis at that age if she did not have an accident.

Please take that serious. Can you ask her brother to call an ambulance and go back home asap?
It is quite normal that neither the patient nor the parents do realise how bad they already are. I nearly lost my d two years ago because we reacted too late. Please do not make that mistake. Take that serious and act NOW.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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sk8r31
The moderating team has locked this thread, as we are extremely concerned that this member get on-the-ground support for her d, due to the issues she is reporting.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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sammspiess
Thank you, I’ve managed to get her into emerg and she is currently there, went to her regular doctors appointment and she sent us in for tests which she agreed to go to and they ended up keeping her and she can’t leave. She’s been diagnosed with mania and the possibility of hyperthyroidism
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