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I got a message a few days ago from Beat.  They are offering 'Coping with Christmas' course for carers on the following days in the following cities.
I think they are free but you will need to go onto the website to find out more.  I think they are being booked through Eventbrite.

It may be an opportunity to meet other parents from the ATDT forum, and also other parents and carers who are struggling.

Christmas is always an anxious time when there an ed in the family because the focus on food is so huge.  Personally, I used to give myself a day off from worrying about it and tried to enjoy my d's company and opening presents and chilling out throughout the day without paying any attention to the fact she was going to eat hardly anything.  That is not a recommendation - just my own way of dealing with it.  My d knew she had to come to table for Christmas lunch and did make an effort to eat vegetables.  I did not bother putting any pressure on her and left her to her own devices - but she was already at a stage when she was just following her own meal plan, and underweight in any case.  I felt I needed a day off from worry and I always loved Christmas before her illness, so decided to just to go ahead and eat and drink with gusto.

Beat will be running the
Coping with Christmas course in:
• Manchester – 16 November
• Liverpool – 17 November
• Norwich – 23 November
• Tunbridge Wells – 24 November
• Edinburgh – 30 November
• Glasgow – 1 December

For more information and to book,
visit beateatingdisorders.org.uk/
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
Hi, just to share my personal experience in case anyone struggling with similar situation. We felt compelled to travel to stay with family last Christmas because it was expected/ lots of pressure from family to come and my kids wanted to go. My D was a few weeks after diagnosis and had not settled into eating. It was a disaster and D was very close to requiring admission for medical instability afterwards. My learning is ED turns the world upside down for sometime and don’t feel compelled to abide by extended family obligations and expectations at Christmas.
Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair