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I am so happy to write that after our huge crash after Christmas and the four-five month hospital stay my daughter is finally home and finally back to the weight she was when she started restricting again.  She came home on tube feeding and I gave her a month to get back to eating everything by mouth.  She needed a month and a week due to GI issues but she was able to do it.

I would love to say that she is back to "normal" but she isn't.  She is still very depressed, very discouraged and would much rather sit at home isolated than do anything.  The loss of being on the farm and being busy with the animals weighs heavy on her still which is understandable since she gave four years to this farm and made it her life.  I have pushed her back into volunteering and we have a garden plot that we've been tending.  There are animals around the garden plot.  I think the deer on the plot have a secret vendetta against me personally since I have seen my life pass before my eyes twice, one when mama deer came up behind me and snorted and yesterday when her fawn exploded out of the marsh and ran by me close enough to touch to get to the woods.  She does seem to engage somewhat out there but still a long way to go emotionally.
I am happy to hear from you, mjkz and that d is better overall. I know how she loves the animals and hope that she can get back to her "calling" and joy in her life. 
Glad that the deer did not take you out! What a fright that must have been! 
Sending my best.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Hi mjkz,

I am so glad to hear that she is back on her weight and eating again. The rest will come by time. It was such a traumatic experience, none of us without ED would go on to the next day without isssues. I am sure you will help her with your great ideas and with your consequent loving and caring help. Is she on meds to help with the depression?

Please be careful with the deer, mama deer is also a ninja mum and as dangerous as us! 😂
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Great to hear your update mjkz, and glad that there has been such positive movement over the past months.  It sounds like you have a great plan to help reengage your d in the things that she holds dear, and that will hopefully help to push her forward even more.  

Sending warm support to you, & hoping that progress continues to help with mood and getting your d back to being involved with all the things that bring joy and meaning to her.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
So glad to hear this, mjkz.  Thank you for sharing.  (And for making me chuckle at your description of the deer!)  Sending you warmth and love.
Hi Mjkz, I'm also very happy to hear your d is back at home and at her previous weight. I hope she continues to improve and that the deer give you some peace.
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww

Hi Mjkz

I had wondered how things were going. So glad to hear that with your perseverance and with good care, your daughter's health is moving in the right direction. Hoping that she will be able to use her interests in gardening and animal care to help work through this difficult time for her.

You are amazing.


I second what everyone else has said. Hoping the emotional recover progresses as quickly as possible. You rock! 

Warm wishes 

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
Thanks everyone!!  The adventure continues only with snakes this time.  Luckily neither of us are scared of snakes-well maybe startled when you step in the grass and something goes shooting out from under your foot.  I really am a city girl =)