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My AN D was severely dehydrated and restricting so bad at home, lost weight and we're back to where we started 2 years ago, we have been in hospital since 9 PM last night and they haven't given her anything to eat just IV, what is ip with that? And she still refuses to drink same 8oz bottle of Powerade she's been promising to drink since yesterday noon, I am so frustrated and all my d does is look for stupid articles on Anorexia that just make her feel worse. I constantly keep it calm and loving and do an amazingly good job of faking it but I wonder if I should take the hard line approach and just leave. She thinks she's coming home for Christmas and she can't even take a sip of juice or not even water. This is the most horrible bizarre disease and no one understands so my wife and I are trapped in this secret.
D diagnosed with AN January 2015, attended PHP, IOP, Residential 18 weeks, back to PHP, IOP 26 weeks, at home struggling, with 1 doc 1 therapy visit per week, til Christmas 2016, back in residential treatment now.
Thinking of you at this difficult time. My daughter was an ip at Christmas 2 years ago so I understand how hard it is. Just hoping that she will get the help she needs and can  continue to recover from this awful illness. Well done on keeping clam and loving and being a strong amazing parent. I wish I could say or do more to help - but sometimes there's no easy or logical answers with this illness. But many of here on this forum understand and are here if you need to vent or ask for advice. Hope things improve
Daughter was age 11 when she started restricting Aug 2014, admitted to paed ward Dec 2014 for low BP, pulse rate and spent 3 weeks there. As they were about to NG tube her, she decided to eat again. After approx. 1.5 years on a meal plan and lots of toil, sweat and tears she is weight restored and has just been discharged from NHS care. It's been a very slow traumatic process but each day we are making progress.
Sorry that you are stuck in a hospital with D. It is such a tough disease, and your D's behaviour and thinking show just how ill she is. I know you know she is not coming home. Hopefully they will insist on NG feeding soon if she can't start eating. 

Hospitals are remarkably rigid places. My D was admitted having refused all food and reduced water for several days. They took a long time to find a bed for her. She hit the ward at 8:05 pm. Supper on their timetable was 8:00 pm so they had no requirement she eat for another 12 hours when breakfast was served. They offered her food but of course she said know thank you, very politely. If she could not eat their meal plan however she would get a NG tube. Despite numerous complaints, I work at the hospital, they could not see that this was an issue!
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Hi Daddyg, I'm so sorry for what you've been going through. It is a miserable illness. You and your family are doing such a good job holding it together. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just believe in your heart that you are doing all you can to make your D well, and believe in your heart that your D will get better. Saying a prayer for your family. I am so sorry.