F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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I'm the dad of a daughter with anorexia , we've been struggling for a 18 months now with our D in and out of hospital, CREDS residential etc. My wife and I have got well meaning friends who we can talk to but they just don't get the struggles and despair. 

I was looking for a Wellington based support group which could meet weekly just to talk, but there doesn't seem to be one. So I was thinking of setting one up. Are there any other caregivers out there who would be interested? I'm happy to sort booking of spaces etc and organising it. I thought the format would be tea/coffee/biscuits , in a private room/space , giving people just chance to talk to others going though this terrible phase of life. 

I know there's EDANZ and CREDs but they don't seem to offer a caregiver support group (do they?) there was talk of them setting one up but nothing has happened so thought I'd start something. 


Hi AndyM you may like to get in touch with @stayingwithit who is also in New Zealand. She has set up parent support groups herself and did run one in Wellington for a while but is now in Auckland. She is also really familiar with all the services available. She doesn't visit the forum much any more so I would suggest emailing. She does a lot of work for FEAST as an advocate. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Hi Andy
At long last we have managed to get the support group set up. message me on my phone 021008296065 and I will send a flyer 
it is Saturday 22/9 at 10am Johnsonville Community Centre . hope to see you there.
Thanks Nici
Great news! We'll be there - thanks Nici. 
Dear Nina,

Please check you email, we have sent you a note.

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
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