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Pandamom
I have been searching this forum and found some good ideas in increasing my daughter’s caloric intake.

Currently I have been:
- adding lots of olive oil to her food
- add benecalories to her smoothies and eggs

My D is very sensitive to taste and texture. I wonder if adding heavy cream to oatmeal will make it very thick. 

Is there a feast cookbook available? 

My D loves citrus sour taste. I tried these recipes and she will eat them. Do you have any recipes for sauce?

cilantro lime rice:
- two tbsp olive oil
- 1 tbsp lime juice
- 1 cup cooked rice
- 1/4 cup chopped cilantro

Balsalmic vinegar sauce: can be used on top of chicken, veggies, etc
- 1/3 cup balsamic vinegar
- 5 tbsp olive oil
- 1 tbsp lemon juice
salt and pepper
Cook and whisk until sauce thicken
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MKR
We have been making a grated carrot salad, dressed with oil infused with lemon and fennel.  
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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MKR
Also:

I put a lot of butter into mashed potatoes, into parsnip puree, into sweetcorn, into stewed apples and into fried mushrooms (with garlic).  I cook pancakes on butter.  

(This is OK so long as your child is not around when you are cooking, because the delicious smell of butter is a giveaway!)

I put a lot of olive oil into aubergines, into Bolognese sauce, into couscous.  I also put raisins into couscous, which she tries to pick out but in doing so she does not notice the olive oil.

Bon appetit!
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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DevonDoris
Hi, I'm new to all this too, but I've tried making chai drinks using full fat milk and protein powders that body builders use with nutmeg, cinnamon and cardamom.

I've also used it in smoothies with full fat yoghurt, milk, half a banana and lots of lemon to make it more tangy. I'm going to try that recipe with mango and passionfruit next.

🙂
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sandie
@DevonDoris welcome to the forum and sorry you had to join. I am so glad you found this forum and so quickly! It took me a few months after D’s diagnosis to find my way here and it has been such a wonderful support. Everyone is so kind and caring and given me such great advice. 
A huge hug to you.

Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair
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Enn
Have you seen these threads? They may help you find more recipes. 
I just added the oils and cream and butter to my repertoire of meals. 

https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/high-calorie-suggestions-696425?highlight=high+calorie&pid=1309311425

https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/high-calorie-snacks-5794369?highlight=high+calorie&pid=1308424146

https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/feast-recipe-book-call-for-recipes-9915329?pid=1309324731

Those with Cystic Fibrosis need tons of calories.
https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/about-cf-recipes.html

https://www.chef4cf.com/recipes
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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deenl
Here are some resources from the FEAST website

Good Luck
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Pandamom
Thank you so much for your ideas. I am reading and learning. 
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Torie
Most here find that olive oil has a rather distinctive flavor and odor.  Rapeseed oil (canola in US) seems to be harder to detect. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Torie
P.S. If you start by adding a tiny bit of heavy cream to her oatmeal, you could probably increase it slowly over time. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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ValentinaGermania
You can also check if there is Jersey cow milk available in your supermarket. 5,8% fats...😁
And yes, if you can get only 1 teespoon of cream into that oatmeal that would count. Every single calory counts.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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workingthrough

You could maybe add ground almonds to her oatmeal as well. We typically do that with cream, butter, whole milk and brown sugar.

S loves cilantro rice as well! We serve it with sweet pork tacos when we make it. I’ll cook a pork roast in brown sugar for the day (slow cooker) and then add juices when we serve. 

Thanks for starting this thread. I’m always looking for ideas as well. 

 

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ValentinaGermania
What about lemon ice cream in the milkshake?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Pandamom
wow... all these of these sounds good. 

I added 2 tablespoons of heavy cream in her regular oatmeal this morning and she didn't notice! Success!

I also tried this for her for lunch and it worked. She thinks it's healthy because it's salad:

chicken salad pita pocket wrap:
- 3-4 oz shredded Rotisserie chicken chopped (that's about 1/4 of a whole chicken's meat)
-  1/4 cup 5% Fage greek yogurt
- 2 tbsp heavy cream
- chopped celery
- dash of paprika, salt, pepper
- 1 tsp sweet radish
- optional: 1/2 container of Benecalories (each container has 350 cal)

Mixed the chicken salad. Store it in the refrigerator. Before lunch, use one whole pita pocket (two halves) to fill with chicken salad, lettuce, and grape tomatoes. 
 
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workingthrough

She might like an orange julius as well? We use the orange juice concentrate + a little extra (or could use lemon) and then whole milk and cream, I cut the ice down a bit as well.

Orange chicken? Sweet and sour chicken? Adding oil to the rice. 

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ValentinaGermania
 Is she drinking cola light? A lot of patients do that. I changed normal coke into the bottle of cola light once the bottle was open...she did not recognize it.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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MKR
Thank you for the link, @deenl.

And thank you @Mamaroo for the YouTube recipes! You are so talented.  The presentation is so clear, uplifting and yet soothing. 

I also like the simplicity of all the recipes above.  For one big reason: easy to replace wasted food.  This is the thinking I acquired when my kids were toddlers. Annabel Karmel in her toddler food book of recipes says in the Prologue: do not spend too long preparing a dish. Your baby might be teething or not feeling well, so don't take it personally if they struggle to eat it. 

I find that this takes a lot of emotion out of meals and keeps me calm.
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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Mamaroo
Zylie wrote:

And thank you @Mamaroo for the YouTube recipes! You are so talented.  The presentation is so clear, uplifting and yet soothing. 

Thanks for the kind words, Zalie

Zylie wrote:

I also like the simplicity of all the recipes above.  For one big reason: easy to replace wasted food. 

I absolutely agree. Simple, easy recipes are the way to go. I often add an egg or two to my recipes to increase nutrition.
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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