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d diagnosed mar 14 
refeeding her and anxiety through the roof
eaten a meal and now wont stop pacing up and down in her room
she fights us when we try and stop her
she got so violent that we called the police
they came and she calmed down but is still pacing up and down what should we do
Mom of 16 year old
Dear sharron47,

Welcome here you will find many to give you what helped them deal with the same things you are dealing with.

Many here have had to work hard & stop all exercise so I hope some of them will be here soon to tell you how they achieved that.

Some have used medication to calm the anxiety. 
ED Dad
Rather than physically or verbally trying to stop her can  you redirect her to another more passive activity? Would she be safe to go on a drive for example, watch a movie? I am imagining that her pacing is related to anxiety so trying to stop her directly is just increasing that. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
What I'm about to say is totally unfair, but ...

I have read that we need to keep our own anxiety under control or else it will feed our kids' anxiety.  So maybe have a glass of wine (for you)?  (Trying to think of some way to make it fair after all.)
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 

Sharron - I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It must have been so scary to see your D so violent.  My D had SO MUCH anxiety during refeeding that we could barely get her to sit down to eat or to really ever sit.  We just had to keep trying new distractions over and over and over and sometimes it would help and we could get her to sit and stop freaking out. I finally wrote down a list of things - literally wrote it down.  Then I'd stare at that paper and my husband and I would say OK let's try this one now and we'd just go down the list and approach our D and announce "We're doing this!"  Most times she'd scream and yell and look at us like we were evil but sometimes she'd say OK and it was like YES!!! One tiny scrap of victory at a time.  Here are some of the things that we tried:  A good Nexflix series, Card game, leisurely walk with the dog, cleaning up her room and helping her, Looking at old family photo albums, suggest a movie with friends, shopping, art project that had something to do with photos of her and her friends together and looking at funny animal-related videos on Youtube. 

Although I was reluctant to do it, we finally put my D on a low dose of Prozac and that really did seem to help her cope with the unrelenting anxiety and craziness around having to constantly move.

I hope some of these ideas help you.  They may not work all of the time, but you just never know when it will help so you just keep trying and trying. I know that ED can be all-consuming for our kids and it's so hard to watch.  When I could get my D to do something, I could see the relief on her face and could see that she needed that break from ED. Hang in there - it will get better!

D, 15, DX with AN 8/2013. Has been WR since 7/2014.