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Good morning, my daughter AN14, is having anxiety that’s definitely affecting her ability to function at her best. It’s also making her not want to eat because her stomach hurts because of it. She’s weight restored and we’re working on  that last 10%. She was recently put on Prozac to help with the anxiety. She had a horrible severe reaction to it. Now, we’re wondering if she should just endure the anxiety because we’re nervous about another medicine. If we can wait it out for a few weeks to get to the extra 10%, will that really quiet her anxiety? I just want to do what’s best for her. I want her to feel good
ED began at age 13, though I didn’t recognize it until she was almost 14. Through FBT, she’s gained almost 30 pounds since 3/15/20. Life is getting better. We have a few pounds and a lot of commitment left to go 💗
It is impossible to know if gaining more weight will help her anxiety. For some it never goes away - AN is an anxiety based disorder and many have underlying anxiety disorders. 
I understand your fear of more medications when things did not go well. Non medicated treatments for anxiety do work pretty well - things such as mindfulness and meditation, CBT can all help. These are all long term things though and need to be practiced. The good part is that she will learn skills that she can use in the future when life throws up those inevitable hurdles. We have made use of these plus medication. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.

Hi there, just thinking about this. The increase in weight will not hurt and 10% is still a lot. One thing I had thought at first was when d would get to WR, I could relax and all the ED would melt away. I was wrong. Once they get to WR there is maintenance and continued gain as a non ED kid, and then it takes time. A lot of time! The brain takes years to heal. These kids tend to be behind non Ed kids in maturity as they have missed out on a lot of socializing and connecting with others as they were entrenched in ED. Then we have to help them navigate maybe, a delayed puberty and all those hormonal changes and brain changes. Then further brain development over time when the pre frontal lobe matures at age 25 or so. The nutrition comes first and sets the environment for the brain to develop and heal and change . Keeping up with nutrition and helping them psychologically is tough and that is where the other part of ED recovery occurs.

For some more weight was key and although we are ensuring that the weight goes on and upwards you are also spending time supporting the brain healing too. I hope that came across correctly. While we are feeding up time passes too so it is both increasing weight and time that can help heal. But with the weight stabilization you will then be able to see what other therapies are needed for her brain. Maybe other meds, therapy or both. 

sorry for the long drawn out reply. 😊

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)