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Just wondering if any of you have experience in giving them to your s or d.  She talks a lot about her life stinks and how sad she is. I know that with more weight, the brain does more healing, but I am wondering if I can help her just a little.  
My d started on Prozac 20 mg approximately 2 months into refeeding. After 5 months of refeeding, she was WR. (I determined she was WR when her state became consistently "green", i.e., minimal ED behaviours, outbursts and resistance to food as well as so much more more like her pre-anorexia self.) She had been on Prozac for 3 months at that time. I don't think we'll ever know what the Prozac did, that is; whether it helped her. My gut says it was the refeeding/weight gain that allowed her recovery to begin. That being said, the Prozac did not hurt. To date, she is still on Prozac. In fact, one year post-WR we increased her to 30 mg, and later 40 mg when her comorbid of Anxiety heightened. She is doing very well and while we are always on the lookout for ED, the monster has yet to return. She thinks the Prozac made a difference and describes her "anxiety as less intense" than it was before anorexia arrived and she began restricting her intake. I don't regret the anti-depressant at all. 
Food is medicine... one mouthful at a time.
We did use sertraline in the first two months of refeeding. At low weight the meds may not work well.I was not sure if it helped at the beginning but when we stopped it last year, she asked to have it started again when school
started. She said it helped her be less anxious and sleep better. She was WR plus 10 kg at that point and doing better overall.
I do not regret having her take meds. She has had no side effects. I am a firm believer that if you need some help, in whatever shape that it comes in, you try it and see. If there are side effects or they are ineffective then you stop. Anti depressants take at least one month to assess efficacy. 
My d still takes it, 2 plus years in.
There is no harm in asking your doctor, there may be some good in taking it.
if it makes her feel better I am all for trying anything as long as it is safe. 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
We never had meds however I did have a period where we attended CAMHS and practically begged for it. D was on board too. They delayed the decision and looking back im glad we didn’t have them as it would have been something else to manage that can sometimes come with its own issues. She’s had ‘green’ days for months now so I feel the mood/suicidal thoughts recovered with WR and experiencing a positive life and everything that comes with that....social life, friends, hobbies etc. 

I am not against medication...I ended up on Sertraline last September/October time and finished taking it a few weeks ago. I was grateful for it as it really helped me get my life together so that I can support her properly. 
There’s no right or wrong...it’s a personal choice. Xx
Yogi13 wrote:
She talks a lot about her life stinks and how sad she is. 

That is normal ED talk and will get less with good nurtition and weight gain and brain recovery. No meds here too. While they are underweight antidepressants often do not work and when they are at a good weight they are often not needed any more. I wished then it would give a pill to stop that ED talk and that low mood but looking back good nutrition and bringing her back to life had the same effect here.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Recently started sertraline here which is helping mood and anxiety. Sertraline chosen due to effect on anxiety which was pre-AN.
Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair
Thanks for your input.  I am going to think about it. We are seeing psychiatrist on Tues, and I will see what she says.  

There have been been many outbursts lately as she is nearing her weight range.  She was particularly upset all day yesterday at certain points but was able to go to my sister’s house, eat her snack, dinner and dessert (all packed and pre determined by me).   This illness is baffling at times.  
Your d may also be experiencing 'extinction burst' where behaviors and anxiety ramp up when close to WR.  There are a number of threads on the forum discussing this.  
That said, we did find meds were helpful for our d, who did have anxiety pre-AN.  Meds muted the extreme anxiety that our d experienced in the early days of refeeding, and she continued for quite some time due to stress/anxiety with school etc.
Discussing the situation with your psych sounds like a good way forward.  And there may be some benefit to waiting another couple of weeks to see if you get through 'the bad patch' of outbursts if your d is in fact experiencing extinction burst.
Sending warm support.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
I am thinking extinction burst too, which has lasted for quite some time as gaining has slowed a bit, so I am managing the outbursts and increasing calories.  I will talk to Dr. to see what she says, and may also wait a few weeks to see how she is once we conquer this hurdle.  Thanks, everyone.  I think I have a plan.