It’s been a while since I’ve posted but (crossing fingers and toes as I type this) we have moved forward by some degree. Lockdown was a challenge but we’ve made up the loss now and back up to 98%w2h. Keeping up with the delayed puberty growth so far....but feeding like crazy to do so. Anorectic thoughts still there but our son is fighting them and eating pretty much everything we give him. Went away on holiday and he managed to eat out pretty much every night, from a menu he hadn’t seen before and he was able to make good choices. He expresses interest in food again and now and talks about the things he loves to eat. We aren’t there yet but we are in a much better place.
Which brings me to my question. We have a fab therapist who ‘e-met’ with our family today. It’s unusual for us all to meet but there were some problems with our eldest, non-ED son that needed to be discussed and resolved.
As part of the therapy, our AN son, 15, was talking about how he feels he has jumped from being 13 ( when anorexia started) to being nearly 16. That he found that hard but was determined to claim back his life. The therapist asked him what life would be like at 25. The positives are that he said he thought he’d have his own place, 2-3 hours max away from us and that he thought he might be in a relationship ( but didn’t want one yet) but when asked about anorexia, he said he thought it would still be there and that it wouldn’t ever go away. He seemed resigned to it.
Is that unusual, to not be able to imagine a life without anorexia at this stage? I suspect it shows that he’s still fighting hard and can’t imagine ever not fighting but I’m scared he still wants anorexia as part of him? Anyone with any insight?