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atdt31_US
Rare day off with kids at school.  Using the time to clean out fridge, make freezer meals, and other super fun stuff like that.  Was going to make some cupcakes for when school gets out.  Googled how to increase the calories or protein in a boxed cake mix.  Went through first two pages of search hits and every single one tells me how to make a low fat version.  Anyone have a tried and true recipe --- 

like, I am sure I can add sour cream; or more oil but I don't know if I need to amend other ingredient amounts like eggs or water and/or what it would do to the cooking time.  She just likes it to seem "normal" like regular cake (does identify protein powder and does identify ground nuts) so I was hoping to get an option like more oil, or similar.  

My kid willingly eats desserts, I just want more bang for my buck when possible, so thought I'd ask here.  Also because only you guys would get how frustrating it was for Google to give me exactly opposite what I wanted.  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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Enn

Could you add full fat milk with cream instead of water and a half cup sugar? 

 

 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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mamabear

I think you just have to trial and error a bit to tweak things. Try full fat milk with some cream instead of water. Add an extra egg yolk. 
But here’s a great cream cheese frosting recipe for you that I use on all cupcakes/cakes/cookies.. it is SO good. 


8 Oz soft cream cheese
6 TBD butter 
3 cups powdered sugar 
1 tsp vanilla
lemon juice to taste 


Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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Enn
How about adding chocolate chips and or nuts if not allergic?
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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atdt31_US
Thanks for the ideas.  I think you are correct that I need to experiment, but today was not the day.  Already have every burner and oven going, so not willing to risk a flop today.  I will experiment with Greek Yogurt or sour cream soon.  I wish I had read to add the extra egg yolk -- but already in the oven.

I did add a little extra oil and I always add and extra whole egg and 3 oz of melted white chocolate (extra 480 calories) to the batter.  I chickened out on using cream instead of water bc she actually really does dislike cream (has never not noticed it, and says it makes stuff taste like vomit).  I should have used whole milk for the extra 150 calories but I chickened out ... she will legitimately be excited to have cupcakes when she comes in the door and I decided not to get greedy and change them up too much since one normal one will be decent calories and one that she rejects (not out of concern of calories) would be zero calories and disappointment (she'd eat something else so would not stay at zero calories ...). 

I will post back with amounts and cooking times if I figure out a significant addition to protein or calories that my picky Sherlock Holmes does not reject.  Again, her rejection is not calorie or weight based.

mamabear -- thanks for the frosting recipe.  I am going to use that on chocolate cake next time I make it!  She wants canned chocolate frosting with added vanilla and added 3 0z of white chocolate whipped in on yellow cake.  I did make the cupcakes in big muffin tins so each one is bigger.  



 
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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mamabear
You could add a good cocoa powder to it too. 
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atdt31_US
She walked in and heard me tell her sister there are cupcakes.  ED-d then excitedly asked what kind.  I told her yellow with chocolate frosting.  First thing she asked was "is there anything funny in there this time?" (Recently she asked for this and I put in ground almonds, and told her I did so. She did eat that batch, but not all that well and said she did not like the textural difference of the fine ground almonds.). 

Anyway, I told her no, it was my normal cake, with the white chocolate so not like the box says but what I always do.  She said "yay" and took the one with the most frosting and, on her way to her room to eat it, asked if I could bring her cheese and crackers too.  Ate all of the cupcake and all of the cheese and crackers and actually asked for six more crackers so the cheese came out evenly.  This from the kid who will literally "forget" to eat for an entire weekend if not prompted.  It is so nice to be home when she gets home from school to help facilitate and monitor a snack.  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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Enn
That is wonderful! 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Torie
That is really great to hear.  Thanks for letting us know. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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debra18
Sorry I am late on this one. You can add the pudding powder mixture, sprinkles, chocolate chips. My daughter loves the cake mix too and I always put it into cupcakes with fancy cupcake liners. 
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mamabear
What a great report!!! 
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atdt31_US
debra18 wrote:
Sorry I am late on this one. You can add the pudding powder mixture, sprinkles, chocolate chips. My daughter loves the cake mix too and I always put it into cupcakes with fancy cupcake liners. 


You are so right!  My mom used to put pudding in some cake mixes. I totally forgot about that!  Thank you .... do all other ingredient amounts and cooking time/temp stay the same?  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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atdt31_US
mamabear wrote:
What a great report!!! 


Thanks!  I am so sad that I cannot be home every day when she gets home from school. We are trying to transition the after school calories to before school, but it is very slow going. Today was a great day though!  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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debra18
I think everything stays the same with the pudding mix. Also you can put powdered sugar and drizzled chocolate on top. My daughter likes cinnamon twists and I found ones with powdered sugar and chocolate on top. 
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MKR
Hi @atdt31_US,

I know the feeling when you want to be there for the kids, especially straight after school when they seem to be at their hungriest.  No chance of part time or working from home in the afternoons?

On the cooking side, honey would bring double the calories BUT it makes the baking harder, rather than softer and the taste is quite distinct (unless you are making something with apples, oats etc).
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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blondie
I know you say that she identifies ground almonds - understandable as they can be quite grainy - but how about almond flour? It's much more finely milled and so would be less easy to identify
Adding extra egg yolks is great - even better if you can track down duck or goose eggs as they are much richer
Also, if a recipe says to use milk then using cream or even melted ice cream can be good ways of bumping up those calories  
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atdt31_US
blondie wrote:
I know you say that she identifies ground almonds - understandable as they can be quite grainy - but how about almond flour? It's much more finely milled and so would be less easy to identify
Adding extra egg yolks is great - even better if you can track down duck or goose eggs as they are much richer
Also, if a recipe says to use milk then using cream or even melted ice cream can be good ways of bumping up those calories  


I will look into almond flour ... would I add it to the cake mix, or would it be instead of regular flour in a scratch recipe?  I love the idea of melted ice cream!  She drank that as milk for a long time and did not say it tasted like vomit .. but HWC as its own addition always gets that remark.  
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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