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mfab12
My d been doing really well. However my h just had lunch with her and she noticed the oil in the smoothie that he had added. He didn't deny or agree of either. She apparently was sad and then didn't finish yoghurt and complained of stomach ache.

Do we confess? Or just say no idea what it was?

So frustrating as was doing well...

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Torie
Many here have had good luck with "We don't discuss ingredients."  Or perhaps, "Huh.  Sounds like it was a bit off."

The reason restaurant food tastes so good is that it is loaded with fat and salt.  It's not a matter of "confessing"; just different people/times have different ingredients.

Sorry to hear she didn't finish the yogurt.  Did he require a supplement of some sort to make up for that?  xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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deenl
I always tasted it and went with the 'Gosh, how strange!' or, as Torie says 'oh dear, something must be a bit off' and whipped it away asap and replaced it with something else (sometimes less calories but I did not want him examining the drink/meal any further!)

I do believe that my son has known for a very long time (possibly from the beginning) that I have been supplementing the nutrition in his meals but as long as nothing was said out loud, the ED thoughts stayed dampened down.

Warm wishes,

D
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tina72
Do not confess. I would just pull it down the sink if it happens again (shake well when you take it out of the fridge so she will not see it) and say it might be off.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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mfab12
Thqnk you everyone. I agree but just wanted to check it out. She has come home from school saying she is feeling sick but happy to have a smoothie (no oil this time) So I think it’s ok!
Thanks again. Need to give h further training on smoothie mixing!!
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debra18
I use chopped nuts instead of oil. The trick I found is to use always frozen strawberries. They have seeds so the nuts blend in well. Also more protein than oil. I don't think you need to say anything about it. Hopefully the next meal will go well. I don't put anything different into the food. I give two high calorie drinks teice a day with a lot of nuts. Also nuts into the muffins. My daughter knows what's in the drinks but doesn't want to see make them
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tina72
"Need to give h further training on smoothie mixing!!"

If you do the fruity ones with fruit, juice and oil you can freeze them very good and just take them out the evening before you need them and put them shortly in the blender the next morning. Maybe an idea when hubby is alone with her?

It is great that she asked for it again so no need to say anything about it.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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