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Hi all. I am just wondering if anyone has any advice. My 13 year old Ds PE teacher has informed me that next week there are classes on physical activity guidelines and a task to fill in a Questionnaire relating to the amount of physical activity that they do. She is wanting to know if this is appropriate or if my D should sit out of the class. My D has been wt restored for 12 months and is coping very well with occasional glitches. She plays sport and leads a fairly normal life, no fear foods and very seldom resists what she is given to eat. I have control over her meals but she doesn't require monitoring.  I have asked that her school excludes her from any classes that give nutritional advice but what about "fitness advice" . Her health team are happy for all fun sport but nothing individually competitive, and not fitbits etc. Should I be concerned or not? 
Thanks in advance. 
It is great that the teacher has asked you. A great starting point already. 
To be honest, I am not sure that any kid should be filling in these sorts of diaries. The are a way for people to compare, compete and get guilty. I would be more interested as to what guidelines are being given. Talking about exercise for joy and health is appropriate. 

The thing is, you are never quite sure how things are going to go in the class. The benefit she would get from the class is likely to be very low. There is a risk that she may hear things that are distressing, that give her false ideas about what she "should" do. Personally I would give it a miss. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Thanks so much. We are lucky that the teacher is really caring and after an early incident setting her a food diary😖😖 she has been very diligent checking anything that might be concerning with me. 
I contacted her and she will let my D miss the class. 
Thanks again 
Thank you for posting this, we would be in a very similar situation in a couple of months, this is really useful. Wonderful teacher! 
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" September 2018, she had a growth spurt a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricting breakfast and school lunch in January 2019 (that we know). We succesfully refed at home.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that I did not know I had.
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Compliments to the sensible teacher - and the sensible mum!
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14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.