Completely new to this and apologies that it's a long post.
22-year-old D was in full-time employment, had lots of after-work activities and out clubbing weekends. At lockdown her work shut down as did all her activities and she's been home 24/7 since. Btw we are in South UK.
Nearly 2.5 weeks ago her eating and drinking gradually slowed then stopped, tried to encourage her but flatly refused and was in denial that she would end up in hospital. Eventually took her to hospital who admitted her and kept her for 1 week, pumping her full of fluids, then discharged her even though she still was refusing to eat and drink. Still refused when at home so 2 days later called ambulance as stomach pains, feeling sick, dizzy etc. Was examined and readings low but ok and suggested that we try local Safehaven. At Safehaven for 4 hours whilst nurse tried various numbers for help, in end she spoke to psych consultant who said if D was dizzy then needed medical help so take her to a&e.
Again admitted to hospital, examined next day by external psychiatrists, who said she was being discharged with antidepressants, which are taken orally with water. I stated D was refusing liquids but this fell on deaf ears. 1 hour later phone call from hospital saying that admitting her as her body in starvation mode. 2 days ago call from hospital saying that D is being discharged but still refusing to eat or drink. Call later that day from hospital saying that keeping her in as possibly something wrong with liver and needs scans. Yesterday had scan but don't yet know result. We are unable to visit, due to Covid19, and finding information by phone is awful (as is not being able to see her). Yesterday spoke to psych consultant who gave very little information and said D was being discharged. When phoned gastro ward she is on we were told by nurse that not being discharged but has drunk 1/2 jug of water. Found out nurse saw 1/2 jug thought 1/2 had been drunk but D had not actually drunk anything, but was correct in her not being discharged.
When she was admitted the first time, my W contacted GP who has referred D to local Mental Health team but they say they are unable to speak to her all the time she is in hospital. From what I can gather Mental Health apparently liaise with eating disorder unit if necessary. I find it appalling that they are unable to contact her until discharge? The last time she was discharged she was back in after two days and I'm really concerned that they won't be able to speak / zoom with her this quickly.
D thinks that they are going to tube her today and is totally against this, not only scared of having tube but 'don't want them to pump me full of food'.
As we are totally inexperienced in this (but are trying hard to understand and learn all we can) is there anything we should be doing or the hospital / Mental Health should be doing that we don't know about? W has been fantastic phoning hospital etc but finding it really stressful not being able to see D and trying to find out what is going on.
Please bear with me as I'm working so may be a bit slow to reply.