F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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amsanto
Hi!  I am new to this forum and was just wondering if there were others out there in my situation.  I have a roommate/best friend who I care about very much who was diagnosed with bulimia nervosa.  She sought out inpatient treatment voluntarily and has been doing really well since she's been back.  She has asked me for support through all of this, and I am more than happy to provide whatever she needs and would have been upset if she didn't ask.  

In any event, I'm looking for others in a similar situation.  I'm not family, but I care about her very much and am involved in her recovery. This seems to be a slightly unique situation compared to the other threads on here.  Anyone else in a similar situation?  I'd love to compare notes, I have questions about others experiences, etc.

Thanks!
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PuddleduckNZ
Hi amsanto, there have been some people on the forum in your situation, I will try and find the posts and bump them up, or someone else may recall.

Good on you, supporting someone with an ED is intense, but if she is doing well on her own accord, maybe find out what she would like help with most?

Reading is great too.

I'm sure some of the more experienced parents of bulimia sufferers will be able to point you in the right direction.

Best wishes PD xx
Son 9yrs when he became unwell 2013, ED slide from April 2014, dx at 10yrs July 2014, 2 hospitalisations - dx so many times Behavioural Anorexia, EDNOS, ARFID. FBT from August 2014. Anxiety, Emetophobia. 13.5yrs old now! In recovery, gets better every day with constant vigilance, life returns.
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JustFlippinEatItNZ
Good on you for stepping in to help, amsanto. She's lucky to have you :-).

Make sure you have plenty of support yourself, as anorexia can make people get pretty irrational and hard to deal with at times - and it isn't a quick fix :-(. What country are you in? Someone might be able to put you in contact with a caregiver support group near you.
19yo D, AN since Sept 2014. Was wt restored for a year or two but now starving again, refusing treatment or to admit she has a problem. BMI guesstimate around 13 or 14. Has left home.
Very sad Mum.
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schnook
Friends of mine who've been in recovery from BN and AN (purging type) have really appreciated company and light distractions during and after meals.

Also, your friend might need you to not keep any binge-trigger foods in the house - or at least store them where she can't access them.
Working hard at meal support and WR for an anxious and food avoidant 6yo
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Foodsupport_AUS
Welcome, sorry that you have had so few replies up to now. 
You are right that the majority of caregivers on the forum are parents, however we have had a number of partners and friends. We all understand here what it can be like living with someone with ED. Your friend is lucky to have someone who is willing to support her, it may not be easy. 
I would strongly recommend reading up on eating disorders, there is good information on the site. Since she has asked you for support it would be worth asking her what she needs. There are also some threads if you search about what not to say - it would fill a book.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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K63
Hi amsanto, just want to say what a great friend you are and how lucky your friend is to have you . Many of us here would love to think when our children move on how good it would be to know that a friend was looking out for them and supporting them . Reading up about it would be beneficial as before my d became anorexic I knew very little about it and reading up and educating myself about it was necessary.
Daughter started restricting in February 2014, tried re feeding at home hospital admission 4 1/2 months weight restored started restricting post discharge, back on meal plan full supervision weight restored april 2016. Starting to hand back responsibility for meals it's scary. 
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amsanto
Thank you for the responses so far!  I've actually done a lot of reading and she and I did some family therapy together while she was in treatment in preparation for her coming back to live with me.  It was very helpful and I got a lot out of it!  I guess I'm most interested in getting others perspectives on living with an adult patient in recovery.  If anyone can point me in that direction, that would be great!  She's been doing so well, but she's also recently made the decision to stop her medications, and I question that.  I've noticed a change for sure, but at the same time, she seems to still be thinking about herself and situations much better than before. As far as her eating disorder, she seems to continue to improve.  Anyway, mostly I would like to compare notes with others in a similar situation.

Thanks for any help!  [smile]
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