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I am back again to update my D's statement. First of all, wish everyone best in the Forum and wish all of you stay safe and healthy.
It's a remarkable day last Saturday because my ED d's period is back.She's 13 old. Her period came back immediately when she was discharged last October. Unfortunately it stopped after 2 months because her weight went down and down. Her weight started to gain since last December and she met the minimum level in healthy range in early February. After that her weight gains steadily so far. Due to being lockdown of the clinic she's unable to get weight 2 weeks ago. However, we just keep feeding her and she works quite well to implement her meal plans. A part of benefit for us in this pandemic of virus is that she stays at home no school now. We can watch her meals including her morning snacks every day(she ate her morning snacks by herself before). In the morning last Saturday, she went out from her bedroom and woke me up, she's so excited to say" Mum, I think my period comes back". I am so happy for her progress. During the last a couple of weeks, we see her ED behaviours less and less. She becomes more rational and appears more positive. e.g, she's willing to take some more bites of food after she finishes her own meal; she accepts to take one more point for her morning snack choice. One night she told me" Mum, I don't think any more that you just want me to be fed more and more"(I always tell her that all meals we deliver her are for her health rather than feeding her more and more.) I know we still have a long way for her recovery path and can't be relaxed to unsupervised her. Some of ED behaviours don't disappear so rapidly one day. e.g, she still asks to make plan of her meals a day earlier; She's reluctant to take some food if which is out of her expectation. I had a discussion with our therapist this afternoon over phone because I have some concern she's unable to have her weight in following weeks. Her doctor suggested us to have her weight at home but we are not sure about the risk because we told her that we had threw out our scale. We're afraid even we have blind weight she would care about that number. The therapist told us no need to care about that number, just stick on her meals. I think it's correct. We will stick on it definitely. I post this topic and would like to share my story and experience to all of you. This illness can be healed and recovered with all of our deep love and full support. Your comments and inputs are very welcome! Thank you.
It sounds like you are making great progress.
If you have got refeeding going well under your belt personally I would not be too fussed about weighing at home, especially if you can see that you are able to supervise all meals, and you are not seeing significant resistance. You need to keep on feeding no matter what, and it sounds like you already know what full nutrition looks like every day. That feed back is is much more important when making changes, handing over feeding, or meals are unsupervised. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Yes, it’s absolutely right! I will be very cautious for any changes. We made a big mistake after D was discharged. She ate her lunch in her school by herself during several weeks. That caused her weight going down rapidly every week. We then realized that too early of supervision her meals is totally a mistake.
Wow, that is wonderful news! 😀😀😀

The best part is that your daughter feels happier and likes to share good news with you! 

The return of her periods means she will be able to grow again, so more good news soon. If you measure her height in a few weeks, you will be able to see a (slight) change.

Keep up the good work. Enjoy the time at home with your daugher as much as you can. No need to discuss food with her much (or weight) but yes, keep on feeding.
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
Wonderful to hear that your daughter is feeling better. I hope you see this more and more. 

Warm wishes

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
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