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Hi Friends, Hang in there!

Given time, most women with anorexia or bulimia will recover

Science Daily

"These findings challenge the notion that eating disorders are a life sentence," says Kamryn Eddy, PhD, of the MGH Eating Disorders Clinical and ...


All best this holiday season. XO


Thanks for sharing Francie. The numbers for me are still disappointingly low, but I think it is also clear that even after a long duration of illness there is a significant chance of recovery is a really important take home message. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
I found this hopeful, having suffered caring for my bulimic d for five years now. I noticed the figures for bulimia did not change from 68.2% after 9 years and again at 20. Also these presumably are people seeking help who accept they are ill and want recovery which is half the battle. I cant get my d to engage in therapy of it even was offered. She cant face talk therapy at all. Particularly when its ill informed as has been the case. I guess its a hidden illness which makes any research flawed.
NELLY D 20 bulimic since age 12, diagnosed in 2011. 20 months useless CAMHs,7 months great IP, home March 14..... more useless CAMHs.now an adult & no MH services are involved. I reached the end of my tether, tied a knot in it and am hanging on. ED/Bulimia treatmentis in the dark ages in West Sussex.
Hi Foodsupport, I agree with you - the numbers are disappointingly and surprisingly low. I wish modern medicine and therapy could do better by our loved ones. It is such a confusing and complex and heartbreaking disease. I am glad at least that our loved ones have more choices than people did, say, in the 70's, 80s and 90s. One of the members of my church has a d who was anorexic in college and all there was at the time was talk therapy. She did recover.

Nelly, I am glad you found this news hopeful, I did too despite the low number. I wish everyone who has an ED would heal fully from this disease. My d is not quite BN but is more AN with B/P tendencies so I get how awful that is since there is so much shame attached to the purging behavior. I understand how difficult it might be for your d to consider therapy since she'd have to expose this shameful side of herself to someone. My d is loathe to pick up with a new individual therapist at this point, too. I have another hopeful thing I can suggest you read. I got a hold of a book I really like that is about addictive behavior. I have read that ED, or at least B/P can become an addictive behavior. This book, written by clinicians who treat addictive behaviors, says that most people recover from addictive behavior without ever receiving treatment. Whew! When I read that I breathed a huge sigh of relief. The book is called 'Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change', by Jeffrey Foote, Phd, Carrie Wilkens, PhD, and Nicole Kosanke, Phd. It is a workbook and is meant as a guide for families. If you are inclined to pick it up you might find it helpful and hopeful: https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Addiction-Science-Kindness-People/dp/1476709475 

All best to you!


I am hoping that, with the introduction of FBT for adolescents with an and with the better understanding there is around eating disorders and the impact on the brain, in twenty years time these statistics will be much improved.
The studies made are likely be of people who were ill a long time ago, when treatment of teenagers with eating disorders was ineffective and made things worse because so often families were blamed/excluded. 
I remain hopeful.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
What about men and boys?

Yet another article that fails to recognise that males get eating disorders too...

Bev Mattocks, mother of 24-year old male DX with RAN 2009, now recovered. Joined this forum in 2010 - it was a lifesaver.