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my husband is in another part of the country visiting his family and we spoke by phone. He said he was just coming back from his sister in law's annual Christmas cookie making party. My heart sank, a memory flooding back of that party four years ago as it was the first time I had a hint there was something the matter with my daughter, when she refused to eat any cookies--  she wouldn't touch one but became frantic trying to get me to eat more cookies. Not a memory i wanted, and cookies have  rather oddly remained almost the most-resisted food for d.  I'm always taking a run at them with her but even now she isn't enjoying them.

Then I served lunch and offered her either a lemon bar cookie or a dream bar cookie (coconut, walnuts, chocolate and condensed milk), sure she'd take the lemon bar as it is visibly , shall we say "sparer" and she's hated nuts since falling ill.  She reached for the dream bar and ate it quite happily!

Take that bad memory! She is moving on forward!


Such a wonderful thing, to see our kids enjoying food they way they should! I'm so happy for you and d.

D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]
It's so wonderful when they take--or even ask for--what was so long refused and feared. Take note, those in the throes of refeeding...it really is possible.
Such a great update!  It really DOES get better with time...

Sending warm hugs to you...

It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
I love that story. What a wonderful feeling to see her enjoy a treat once again!
Yeah!   Take that ED....dream bars should be eaten because well, they are tasty!  

D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
It takes so long!!

I wonder if your d will remember fearing cookies in a few years from now? My d really doesn't remember a lot of the illogical things she did.  You, however, will never forget.
Colleen in the great Pacific Northwest, USA

"What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious disease."
Alexander Pope, 1688-1744