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hbeatsaUSA
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D- 21 w long history of RAN (that seems to be in remission, thankfully)
Me- Stephanie
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SeminarLady
I am so very sorry for the loss of another precious person to ED.

Hugs!
Cathy V.
Southern California
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AUSSIEedfamily
Dear hbeatsaUSA,

So very sorry to hear of this sad loss. I am so sorry for this family & extend my most sincere condolences to them. We passed very close to this scenario ourselves.

While our D is in a good state & I am in a position to take a step back, its moments of such loss as this that keeps me working on advocacy for better treatments & inclusion of families as part of the recovery team.
ED Dad
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Trytrytry
That's another bad thing about our kids requiring residential, not only do they learn new tricks but they are out of school and their normal socialising and tend to become friends with patients on the ward. It's understandable but can cause problems, if they stay in touch, keep each other ill or one struggles and passes away.
My d had a rule, she came up with it all on her own and I must say I was impressed. She had become close friends with a number of fellow patients but she decided she never wanted to have contact with them and intentionally never took or gave out her email and is not on Facebook or other social media under a name anyone other than her normal friends know. She wants to see hospital as a blip in her life and not be associated with girls that had become chronic, institutionalised, she didn't want to be dragged down.

So sad, hope this reinforces her determination to recover and not relapse.
I want a realistic dr and team, not someone who says what I want to hear and not a 'touchy feely nice' dr that doesn't have success.
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hbeatsaUSA
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D- 21 w long history of RAN (that seems to be in remission, thankfully)
Me- Stephanie
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lisaNJ_US
I'm sorry to hear of the loss. Damn ED.
Lisa NJ Mom to daughter dx AN (Nov. 2013) at age 10. WR April 2014. ~There is light at the end of the tunnel.~
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mamabear
The group of kids affected by this seem to be empaths, artists, thinkers, feelers.
When my d was hospitalized at ten, they all called her " baby" and we're very protective of her. I would hang out with them all in the day room braiding hair, painting etc and talking. When I took D home, a boy about 16 said " I wish you were my mom. You are like all of our mom, because our moms don't come." It was SO sad. I wonder all of the time what happened to these kids . D keeps in touch with obe person who is a year older and in a firm recovery.

I am sorry for the loss of this girl. Not right.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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perdido
I think we need to let them decide how the folks they meet inpatient will be in their lives. Just because they are chronic, or institutionalized doesn't mean they are dragging our kids down. I've met a whole bunch of non-institutionalized folks who have not been to good at being people also. Guess my dd wouldn't be friends with trytrytry's child. More stigma on the mentally ill.  And yes, I know who just passed, sad.
Slow and steady
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hbeatsaUSA
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D- 21 w long history of RAN (that seems to be in remission, thankfully)
Me- Stephanie
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