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So originally we were going to check in on Monday but for several reasons we switched to Friday. I hated not telling her but figured it would stress her too much and cause who know what kind of a reaction. So as we went into McCallum place Friday morning, I told her about the program and that she would be starting it today and each day for "awhile". She was of course not happy and held in her tears/frustration. I had to nudge her to go with nurse to get vitals, etc. So hard but I didn't break or cry myself, well not then anyway. We went thru a separate orientation and so did she. We all later met up and different times with therapists and psych dr's. She was amazingly opening up each person but totally shunning us. Dr said she said she had rough morning as she didn't know this was happening today. They explained I didn't lie but only gave parts of the truth to keep her anxiety down. Didn't matter, today is 3rd day and she hasn't spoken to me or w. Drs say very normal and it will get better. They've all said how well shes doing for only 3 days and how open shes been with therapists/psychs so maybe theres hope after all. I will say the experience and staff at McCallum has been exceptional. And she had gained another 3lbs in the prior week and a half ! I am cautiously optimistic. I know these things are by no means 100%. But its giving me and w some hope nonetheless. Have also met some other great parents going thru the same thing. God help us all
Yeah!  It sounds like it's going reasonably well.  The "magic" (if there is any) is getting the weight back on.  It will get better, although not in an entirely linear fashion...push ahead 2-3 steps, go back 1-2 steps...push ahead again. This is how it seems to go.  But, it will get better, little by little, bit by bit.  Hang in there!
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
Steve, I promise that if she gains enough weight then she will come back to you.

My d HATED me. She stomped on me, bit me, screamed in my ear, threw food at me, called me horrible names, ran away from me... I called emergency services more than once because I was concerned for my safety. I remember once when they arrived I showed them a collection of cuts and bruises she had caused me. I wore long sleeves in summer because my students would ask how I had gotten those bruises.

Now she is living away for college and we've just gotten back from a weekend with her. She hugged me and held my hand and told me she loved me. She did goofy song and dance routines with her little sister and thanked us for coming to see her. She tried to pay for our dinner and told me I looked like a supermodel. (Lol)

Never give up hope. Never stop pushing for a good weight. Just keep going.


D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]