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I'm another member of the club whose kid's doc told her her weight was fine when actually she still needed to gain a fair bit more weight.  My d was not fine at that weight and - more importantly - her mental state was not improving.

There is really no way to know how much weight is enough for any given person, other than being at that weight for a while and seeing if ED symptoms fade.   It's the weirdest thing - they hate hate hate their weight/size/shape when they are underweight and then they are much more comfortable with themselves once they have gained more.  We see that same pattern over and over here ... and, again, my family is among those who have personally experienced this.

My d is doing really well now.  The reason I keep hanging around here on the forum is to pass forward the good advice that I received here myself.  One thing that really struck me is this:  If your ED-kid is at a perfectly fine weight, her weight will also be perfectly fine at that same weight plus another 5 pounds.  But if her weight is currently a little too low, that next 5 pounds can make all the difference. 

So if you aren't seeing improvements in mental state, I would urge you to keep them gaining.  xx


"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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