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Deenl, yay for poker face & mac & cheese. Xx
Delighted about the holiday...gosh the progress in 1.5 years,considering how sick he was is amazing , huge congratulations to you all xx

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Hi Deenl - So glad to read this positive update!  We just returned from our first family vacation in ages so I've been offline for 10 days.  So nice to come back to your good news!  xx

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All I can say is awesome for you and your family.  So glad he asked and you were able to make it work.  Lots of hard work on everybody's part!!!  Nothing in life that is worth much doesn't take work.
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Awesome to hear about the trip going so well deenl.walt Disney (for all his faults) had a mantra that I use all the time in my head "keep moving forward"it sounds like that's your mantra too!
In terms of the aspie thing,it was just a thought.aspies do have friends though,usually a small core group some who will present with challenges of their own-ADHD,dysparaxia and autism,but they take a long time to diagnose because when your child is high functioning it presents so differently to the "accepted" perception.i found even the books didn't always help,though some things on YouTube did.
We are all on the spectrum,it's whether or not the behaviours hold us back.
Anyway,all that aside,I'm loving hearing of your progress for your son,onwards and upwards eh!

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Hi everyone,

Just wanted to share our happy news.

This week our son went back to school full time for the first time in 2 year. He is happy and relaxed. I don't want to jinx things but he seems to be eating fine in there.

I sent him back without any strict arrangement around snacks and lunch. 

- he won't talk about his internal picture
- he knows our expectations were that he goes back to school full time
- I told him I expected him to eat his snacks and lunches
- a different day, I told him to bring home whatever he didn't eat. No blame, no shame.
- no gym for this year per my request
- his brother and mentor are keeping a subtle eye on whether he eats or not
- I will weigh more frequently during this transition phase
- he has been eating 3 meals/3 snacks at home almost without fail for 18 months (more sporadically in the 6 months before that) The eating habit is strong.
- my husband and I are keeping an eye out for any of those nuanced signs that mean mental health is slipping

So that's where we are at and so far, so good.

Thanks, as always, for your support and time over the years everyone. We couldn't have done it without you guys.

Warm wishes,
D

This would not work and should not work for everyone but for us a calm, supportive environment was necessary for mental and emotional recovery. Combining school and recovery was completely overwhelming for him. I feel that his recovery is stronger and more solid for not having been pushed back to school before he was ready.

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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Hi deenl,
send you a hug and [thumb]! Hope that everything will be fine. Going back to school helps a lot to get into a normal life again.
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Yay for Team Deenl!!!

So glad to read your happy news!  Thanks for sharing.

You rock!!!  xx

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Congratulations, Deenl! What wonderful news for your and your family. I am so happy for you and grateful for you that you have shared your story about how to get through it. You have given me hope. Best wishes! XO
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Deenl, you and your family are amazing.  I'm so happy to read this.  You have been through hell and back but you found a way against what seemed like overwhelming odds.  Amazing.  I hope you post in the recovery story thread soon!!! [biggrin]
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Hi Deenl,
How is your Son doing ,  How is school?
x

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Hi toothfairy,

Thanks for thinking of us.

It's going GREAT. [thumb] Seeing all three kids cycle off to school, happy and normal, hasn't gotten old. I watch from the living room window with a tear in my eye and shear joy and thankfulness in my heart. Sounds sappy but it is the most precious moment - every morning still.

Still having to tweak the tail of the tiger to eliminate the last of the symptoms but we'll get there.

Sounds like things are going well in your house too. So very glad for you all. Your mom's instincts were spot on.

Warm wishes,
D

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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Ah Deenl, 

That's just fabulous news, brought tears to my eyes too.
I am just so so happy for you and your family, its just amazing. You have given your kid the gift of recovery against all the odds.
You are an absolute inspiration to us all.


Thank you Deenl, Yes, Things are great here. My S is at a great weight for him, and going up with growth, and functions like a "regular teen" wink, wink, lol.....
He did his Junior cert state exam ,and he was happy with the results, very relaxed about everything. 
He is in transition year at school , he has a girlfriend, he is full of fun and plans, and has his work experience set up for a great company in the city for  6 weeks of TY. He is thrilled.

He will eat anything that's put in front of him without anxiety, and can choose wisely when out, go for pizza,burger,wings etc .

He will even go to the supermarket on occasion with his classmates and grab a few sausage rolls instead of the "tuna sandwich" for his lunch, all no problem.


He understands that it is imperative that he does not miss a meal or snack, and is fully compliant.
If he has been out he will discuss what he had, and that " there was no desert at her house" or whatever he needs.

His emotions are back and normal ( as normal is !) , his rigid thinking is flexible, and he will hug me and "teen argue" with me , and we are crazy about each other.
Needless to say, I still keep a close eye "from the sidelines".

His eating disorder is now considered "sub clinical" by the team, he is only seen now once every 3 months, and we are hopefully heading for discharge, planned for April 2018, with a relapse prevention plan.

Remember where we both were 2 years ago..... I remember dreading Christmas, actually dreading everything, terrified..

This year we will be so looking forward to it!!!

I just need to heal myself now from the trauma!!

Recovery is possible and amazing, Delighted for you!
Much love xxxxxxxxx

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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So glad to hear that things are going so well in the Deenl and TF household!!!  Brings a tear to my eye too.
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Tears here, too.  So very glad to read how well your boys are doing!!! xx

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Thanks so much, couldn't have happened for us without all you guys  on ATDT XXX.....


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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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ditto
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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Hi Deeni & Toothfairy , it's so good to read such positive posts and gives everyone hope. Well done to ye both and ye re children / adults . Ye have done an amazing job. remember to take care of yere selves now .
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Hi K63. Love the accent. Yeh'll make me homesick [wink]
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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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FYI I did EMDR therapy for PTSD after d was back to mostly normal. Seemed to help with all the post-recovery symptoms I developed (waking up terrified, anxious, unable to sleep, fearful).
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Thanks K63,
EC_Mom , I will look into that! thanks

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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