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rosalind50

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My d is now 2years on from diagnosis of AN and is doing amazingly well. Weight restored, eating normally and enjoying life again. Her older sister however is now suffering from depression and anxiety a lot of which stems from the trauma f living Ina house with someone suffering from AN. The things she had to endure, listen to and see were more than any teenager should have to go through and a lot of the time she was trapped in her bedroom while I dealt with the onslaught of the ED as we battled to defeat it. I just wondered if anyone else was or has been in a similar situation with a sibling? My oldest daughter is currently refusing to see a doctor or counsellor about how she is feeling although I mad trying to persuade her.
It is heartbreaking that the ED doesn't only affect the child but the whole family for years to come.
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This vile illness takes such a toll on the whole family.  Ugh.

My non-ED d was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder a while ago.  Sometimes they are more open to treatment for anxiety than for other mental health issues, especially if they realize that evidence-based treatment teaches them skills for managing their emotions as opposed to the old-fashioned (but still very common) talk therapy.  I started a thread about finding good, evidence-based treatment for anxiety about a month ago if you're interested.

Good luck and please keep us posted.  xx

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rosalind50

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Thanks for that Torie x
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Same here, this illness affects the whole family and I was probably so busy with ED D that non-ED got very little attention. If she is not open to therapy, you can take her shopping alone. Just the two of you. We did it every week. On Thursdays I took her shopping and on Sundays my husband took her to the movies or lunch at the beach. You can try over the counter anti-anxiety meds, which might just take the edge off.

Good luck!!

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I have a 19year old daughter who has been battling since she was 15.5, her younger sister who is now 15 herself has pretty much grown up around ED stuff, so we watch her very carefully, poor girl.
I find with her that any time it is just the two of us out and about she will often bring up the ED and vent her frustration.  I encourage her to talk, let her know that its ok to feel frustrated, while reassuring her that she is gorgeous with her curvy voluptuous figure.

Earlier this year she chose Anorexia as her speech topic at school, using her personal experiences of growing up with a sister who is still battling.  She shared how it made her feel, and how she has struggled at times with how different her body is to her sister's and that she has to remind herself that she is healthy.  She did so well that she was marked as Excellence level a year above where  she is!

So, all I can add really is to keep the communication lines open with any siblings, and Mamaroo's suggestion of shopping etc is the perfect opportunity for that.

All the best to you and your family.

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